Does anyone else out there LIKE being alone?

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Can a person be perfectly happy and content living alone? I don't want to be alone ALL the time, mind you. Sometimes it's hard not having anyone close by that I can talk to (which is usually why I come to this site). But the way other people go on I should be completely miserable being a loner.
I have often been a lot more miserable while surrounded by people acting like morons or talking to everyone else except me. When I was 21 I had to live in a group home with 10 other people who mostly suffered from schizophrenia. It's a wonder I survived! But it seems to me that a lot of other people with AS say they're always so lonely. Why don't I have that problem as much? The rest of the population putting tons of pressure on me to not be myself, telling me how to think, act, dress, eat, and generally act like a mindless clone, now that's my problem!

Sure - as long as I don't get lonely

Yep, I like being alone. now quit bothering me with all these questions. :p

I do like living with people, though (although I spend most of my time in my room or the workshop). As I have no desire to "go hang out" with people, I would have almost no social interaction if I didn't live with people. Knowing people is nice sometimes. You can learn things from them.

I wish I could be all alone for the rest of my life. If only I won the lottery..

I'm perfectly happy living with my cats and not even one single moment in my life felt lonely or missed human contact.

Don't let anybody tell you how to live. Only you know what you actually need.

I like being alone and am never lonely. I have a busy job that brings me into contact with lots of people, I live in a big city and I have friends, so it's not as though I am a recluse.

I've been saying the same thing.

Yes, I like being alone. I am a hermit type person. I lived with relatives for most of my life, until about 6 & 1/2 years ago. Since then I have lived alone, and it is MUCH better! Even when I lived with relatives, I kept to myself for the most part, by choice. NTs have unrealistic expectations of Aspies. We all drove each other crazy because of that. I do have dim memories of being lonely a lot as a small child. Later, as an older child, it was a milder feeling, accompanied by much frustration. Once I entered my teens, I really didn't feel much loneliness at all, but still felt the frustration of trying to deal with non-Aspies. By that time I had gotten used to being solitary, and found it was better for me that way. I am in my early 50s. Back then Autism and Asperger's Syndrome had not yet been identified, although these conditions did exist. I knew some other kids with similar problems at a special school I went to for a while. People on the spectrum back then were labelled as having emotional or behavior problems, so there weren't any appropriate treatment options available. Everyone just assumed that if I saw enough different psych doctors and therapists, and occasionally went through a course of psych drugs, it would "cure" my "emotional and/or behavior" problems. Several years ago I found out I had Asperger's. It was a relief to find out why I was different. However, knowing that won't make me a social butterfly, or fix my other symptoms, but I'm okay with that. I prefer being a hermit over living with NTs and their unreasonable, and unattainable expectations.

Remember, we on the spectrum are all:

A Different Drummer

If a man does not keep pace with his companions,
Perhaps it is because he hears a different drummer.
Let him step to the music which he hears,
However measured or far away.

--Henry David Thoreau

I like people, but I become highly irritable when I'm living with someone. I could never live with anyone, unless we had our own bathrooms, kitchens, bedrooms...hmm, yes.

the lonely factor might seem larger then it actually is, you do not hear people complaining when they are content with their life.

It's true, I am content with my life. I have friends, although it took me to be content with being alone, to be able to make more friends.

I loooooove being alone I can have as much fun alone as I can have with friends.

I love your nickname, lol.

Thank you I like your picture, even though I don't know what it is. Which probably adds to its likeability.

It's chocolate cake.

I like being alone. I can relax easier and have more fun.