Online chat: questions about relationship history

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When I chat online with anyone (I chat on IRC occasionally) one of the first questions that comes up every time is whether I'm married or single.

Then the question always turns to how many relationships I have been in - my relationship history. Since I have no relationship history to speak of, that becomes a hard question to answer, they then ask why I haven't been in relationships.

How do you answer these questions? I just told someone it was down to disability, and she was OK about it. But how do others answer?

Make up two or three fake stories, and use them every time. Have a detailed history for each fake relationship, such as how you met, how you did or didn't get along, how you spent holidays, etc. Also make sure to have a "good" reason for why a given relationship ended, such as "both of our wants and needs changed, and ending the relationship was for the best", or "she cheated on me, and it's against my principles to take someone back", or even "we drifted apart". Write down those stories if you have to, and tell them consistently every time.

I disagree, when it comes to having sex, if you're inexperienced she'll know, when it comes to relationships, if you're lieing eventually it will come back to bite you..

I truly believe the truth, even if it has to be diluted or not totally revealed has much more value.

I REALLY dislike the making up stories idea..

I guess if you're desperate for sex it'll work, but if you're looking to actually get along maybe you'll find a girl in a similar boat, theres plenty of them out there, or do you want to forever be living in a place where you can't trust her because you know for a fact she can't trust you?

I reckon simply tell her you're very different, you had other things to do besides sex, and you can probably inspire her with what you've actually been achieving/thinking/creating.

Dont do this.Many of my boyfriends had few relationships and several were virgins.I think this is more attractive then either someone with a lot of experience or someone who lies.Even if you have "memorized" your lies,I believe some part of your "fake self" will keep you from making a real connection with someone.I think this is a really bad idea.

Be honest.If "why" becomes an issue...the truth is..."I havent met very many people I have felt connected to".....Dont think of it as YOU being rejected by others but OTHERS being to superficial for your tastes because they couldnt see past your "aspie traits" or whatever,to get to know you well.

thats right, lieing to yourself will hurt you, and in turn her.

Aspie1 you care inside about the truth I know it..

Maybe so. But making a good first impression is more important to me. Sadly, the society expects guys of post-college age to be at least somewhat experienced. Now since I can't magically create a relationship in my past, the least I can do is get my stories straight.

The first impression you are making is...."Hi,I am a liar.I will tell you what ever I think will impress you to get into your pants".....How original...

If someone asked me such a question, I'd provide the "happy" version of the truth: I've been too busy with my college studies.