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hey guys

sending lots of love to you all today <3

hope you are all ok.

got a slight issue atm-well its been an issue for most of my life but its become more of a problem now im in my early 20s as its less socially acceptable to cry in public at that age.

ever since I can rember ive cried VERY easily. im not sure if its an aspie thing, anything to do with my bipolar , or just the way I am.... but I litarely do brust into tears at the drop of a hat. All it takes is something as simple as hearing a sad song or someone slightly rasing their voice to me and the flood gates open.

it seems to have gotten worse lately too,for resons I cant fathom.

its ok if im with my family or my good friends cos they are used to it -but its not good for making new friends and attracts a lot of stares when I go out.

does anyone else have this problem? and if you do, how do you deal with it?

rox xx

No, it's not an Aspie thing, just a hormonal thing, especially of somebody your age. I'm in my early 20s too, and I cry a lot. I just get emotional, maybe because I'm not very emotionally strong inside, I don't know. But I do know a lot of young women that do cry at the drop of a hat.

I often want to cry when I get told off by someone in authority. I just can't help it. It can sometimes be embarrassing, depending on the situation. This is another reason why I would hate to work in retail dealing with customers. Sometimes you have to deal with awkward customers, and some get firey, and if you're weak like me, you feel humiliated by them and also intimidated, then you burst into tears. I wouldn't want that to happen.

I really don't know what exactly causes this in some people. All I know is that it happens to me too. I'm always crying.

I don't deal with it. I get mad.

I used to cry very easily because of my anxiety. I'd cry at restaurants if the waitress asked me to repeat my order. Ouch, right? So now, I just take reallllly deep breaths, close my eyes, and tell myself how silly I'm being.. like in the case with the waitress: "calm down. She just asked you to repeat your order! She probably does it 30 times every day, just chill.."
I've also began meditating. Lol. That might seem silly, but I really like it. Clears my head and calms me down.

I rarely ever cry over physical or emotional pain, or anything serious.

But I tear up all the time over stuff I don't really care about, like commercials Or sometimes when I mention a story where someone was nice to someone else, even minorly, I'll suddenly tear up. It annoys me so much.

I wonder if it has something to do with sensory processing issues? Do you have problems with that?

I feel like my brain is completely cross-wired sometimes, like I have physical reactions to stimuli that makes no sense at all. For instance, my body responds "favorably" in an embarrassing way when I become nervous. Because that's EXACTLY what I need to feel even more awkward when I have to give a speech in front of a crowd. Arg. It's not like I'm enjoying it or anything, my body just doesn't do what I want it to most of the time.

I think crying over sentimental stuff in movies and songs is socially ok at any age, although some face saving effort is expected to varying degrees depending on gender.

The crying sounds like bipolar to me, do you take any mood stabilisers for this? What type of bipolar do you have?
One minute your fine and the next minute you are crying? I had 2 girlfriends, and both were diagnosed with bipolar. Sounds pretty much what they did.