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02 Jan 2012, 12:15 pm

Heh folks....when I get emotional I tend to bbm my friends whoa-is-me crap....looking for sympathy, I guess.
It is certainly taking its toll on our friendship and I would rather not lose these friends -- they are good and positive and we have known each other for a long time -- but they are tired of my behaviour. It is almost like I get so whacked out by my emotions I cannot help myself.
Looking for .... advice on how to emotionally regulate - get through the tough periods...and anyone else have these urges?



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02 Jan 2012, 3:35 pm

Maybe you could post your feelings here in the Haven. :)

Also try to remember that feelings aren't facts. When I am really down it gets to me, and it "feels" like I will feel horrible forever, or that I am horrible at everything I try to do, and none of those are true. The fact is, the feeling might last longer than it should, but it won't last forever. I might be alone or lonely right now, but it won't last forever. At some point I will meet new friends whether I expect it or plan to or not. The facts will help you keep perspective when the feelings get out of control.

Hope that helps


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02 Jan 2012, 3:39 pm

I recommend that you learn a relaxation technique. Meditaiton can also help with understanding and regulating emotional responses.


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02 Jan 2012, 11:51 pm

When I get over-emotional which has been often my family gets very annoyed.
I mostly get emotional because I have any friends and they think that I want sympathy.
Sometimes I don't know how to keep my emotions to myself and it appears that I am complaining.


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03 Jan 2012, 12:33 am

Moog wrote:
I recommend that you learn a relaxation technique. Meditaiton can also help with understanding and regulating emotional responses.

Thanks...A good friend of mine has used the word 'mindful' .... hard to do... maybe it will help with the (over) analyzing! Thanks for your advice



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03 Jan 2012, 12:35 am

glasstoria wrote:
Maybe you could post your feelings here in the Haven. :)

Also try to remember that feelings aren't facts. When I am really down it gets to me, and it "feels" like I will feel horrible forever, or that I am horrible at everything I try to do, and none of those are true. The fact is, the feeling might last longer than it should, but it won't last forever. I might be alone or lonely right now, but it won't last forever. At some point I will meet new friends whether I expect it or plan to or not. The facts will help you keep perspective when the feelings get out of control.

Hope that helps

A good point...I am working with some exercises that are stressing finding Facts not Emotions (and erroneous thinking). Good to know that it works for you.