Object blindness - WHY???????

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I hate this. It's so embarrassing, and makes me feel so stupid. Yesterday my boyfriend was making his sandwiches and asked me to get the ham from the fridge. I opened the fridge and peered in, and couldn't see any ham at all. He said ''there, right in front of you'', in a rather irritated voice, and then it still took my stupid brain a couple more seconds to register the ham. Ohh, such an easy task and a 3-year-old would probably find the ham quicker than me! It's so embarrassing! Why do objects disappear right in front of my eyes? It's scary. It makes me feel like an idiot. My boyfriend is going to get really annoyed with me one day. I mean, how can you not see something what is staring right at you? It's not as if the fridge was overcrowded with stuff either. The ham was just lying by itself on the bottom shelf in the fridge. It is pure stupidity. I hate it.

That happens to me ALL THE TIME!

I often don't see things that are in front of me.

My wife berates me all the time for this.

Yeah, it's so embarrassing, and frustrating.

Same here. Happens all the time. I've gotten yelled at while at work because I stared straight at something I'm supposed to grab and couldn't see it. It's hard to convince anyone, including yourself, that you aren't a moron when that happens on a daily basis.

I find that I have a picture in my mind of the item I am looking for. Such as ham in a blue package and this is what I am scanning for. If it in a red package or any other colored anything I don't register it as what I am looking for. Sound the same?

To asdfor3
It is logical what you say but not always applicable for example the last time it happened to me was with my calculator at work, I known the color, texture, weight and dimensions of the calculator perfectly because It is a tool I used a lot but despite having It in front of me, I was no able to see It, at the end a coworker had to get up and give It to me, like you can see your theory is not applicable in this case, but your theory It make dense anyway.

I am sorry the last sentence do not have sense because I am using a phone with a stupid corrector and like It works with spanish I have a lots of problems with It
What I was trying to say is

"Your theory makes sense anyway"

I do this all the time too I will look and look and look for something I know is right there with no luck. I now make myself leave the room and think about something else and when I come back it's where I thought it should be! Of course, it might just be that the pixies put it back when I left the room

I can relate. I've had this problem since childhood. Especially when it comes to finding stuff in the fridge or pantry. or finding stuff at the shop. I think part of the problem is I don't see much detail for stuff I'm not obsessed with.

I do the same thing, too.

Your boyfriend should not get upset at you about this. It probably won't go away, and he has to get used to it. It's better to learn to laugh at yourself because of it.

I have this problem so badly that I don't notice major changes. One year, my husband took the Christmas tree down while I was out of the house, and when I came back I didn't notice. It has become a game for my family to play on me: "Let's make some changes and see if she can guess what they are."

We all (NTs included) make fools of ourselves all the time, mostly in inconsequential ways. It's better just to laugh. These quirks do serve a purpose and make us a bit funny and endearing if we (and those around us) can lighten up about it.

It *really* doesn't matter most of the time. In the grand scheme of life, who cares if it takes a few extra seconds or even a minute to find something in the fridge? If we make a big deal about every single difficulty that one can have, we're going to be miserable. Tell that to your boyfriend if he gives you a hard time.

I agree with you.
I usually notice if an object big enough to see wherever you are in the room is gone, like a Christmas tree. But when somebody asks me to pass them something, and they're right near me, that's when I can't see what I'm supposed to be getting. Maybe it's a nervous thing, although I don't feel nervous around my boyfriend.

I know that everybody has quirks, and I've discovered for myself that my boyfriend's quirk is wanting to be right all the time and jumping straight to conclusions. Like once we were booking vacation tickets online, and I remember doing this once before, although I had forgotten how to do it so was quite slow, and it was his first time doing it so he was a little flustered because he wanted to make sure we were doing it right, which I understand. But I knew you had to select a particular button to finish and print, and he kept saying it wasn't. I got confused, and he was telling me to click on all these other things, and in the end I clicked on the right button again, and while he was saying ''no, not that one, go back, go back'', I proved to him that it was the right one, and the tickets were printed off personally. I knew he wanted to be right, and be the one to find the solution. It's not a bad thing in a person, it's just what some people are like. I'm quite the opposite, I can be easily convinced that I'm in the wrong, and feel shocked when I am right.

All the time! It's so embarrassing. I hate it. It's like the more anxious I am about locating the object, the harder it is to find. Especially if it's in my mother's fridge.

You are not alone. It has happend to me to.

Seem to me it's not only frequent with aspies, but also with NT.

If you think he'll get annoyed with it maybe you should tell him about it (if he doesn't already know) in a way that he'll understand. I can't tell you how many times I've been bothered by something someone else has done, but once they told me the reason behind it being something out of their control (such as a disability, etc.) then I can't help but see it in a different way and do my best to understand. I'm sure he wouldn't get annoyed if he understood.