Do you ever have trouble apologizing?

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...even in severe situations where you know it's your fault?

I dunno what it is with me. Sometimes I feel forced to apologize for something regardless of whether or not I actually feel sorry or when I know it's not my fault about something because everyone is taking the victim's side. That sounds weird and probably wrong but yeah...

In this world no one EVER sees me as a victim...

Yeah sometimes.

But my dilemma is I apoligize and I don't get the same thing back in return. So I only apoligize if I think the other person who I think started it first, has apologized.

Hmm, no...not if I am genuinely at fault and I know it.

Problem is, it rarely is my fault. Its usually a misunderstanding based on social miscommunication.

Is it my fault they're too dumb to understand what I meant?

If I feel bad about the situation I don't have a problem apologizing. If I don't feel bad and am still required (for whatever reason) to apologize, I will say "I apologize for...", I won't say I am sorry when I am not.

Only when I am forced to say it, or if it was over a big deal...

Other then that, I find myself apologizing more often then I shoud be... When someone bumps into me, when I answer a question wrong, ect.

I don't have trouble. I always apologize when I know or think I did something bad.

I had MAJOR trouble with this growing up. I was totally incapable of apologizing as a kid; then, when I "figured out" how to do it (about at age 14), I would apologize excessively for totally unnecessary things (making up for lost time? I have no idea)...

Through the years of trial and error, I'm pretty good about it now. If I do or say something and I know right away it was inappropriate or my fault I apologize immediately and very naturally.

Although if I do something out of line that I don't catch at the time and someone tells me later that somebody was offended, I have big time problems approaching and repairing the situation after the fact. Thankfully though this doesn't happen very often.

I have the opposite.. I tend to be over-apologetic! I think it's a habit of overcompensating for my poor social skills.

I'm kinda like this too. It doesnt help that I will often have emotional meltdowns over this or that people often inform me of my "bad actions" through notes (though talking about it to my face won't do any better).

Guess I became so use to being at fault for everything no matter what the situation. Having to apologize (even when it is my fault) brings messed up emotional stuff inside me and are often triggery of my suicidal behaviors. I hit a new low once trying to commit suicide just so I wouldnt have to personally face a few people to apologize to them.

I can identify with this, Whisper, naturally we're inclined to treat any friends like gold in order to keep them so we'd bend over backwards to to accommodate them; I know I do, hence I never stop worrying about something I either might've done or done if I feel like matters could come to a head.

This is exactly me. I know my wife and kids find it annoying.

I always thought this was just part of my OCD. But I'm starting to realise that a lot of my OCD symptoms are my mind having tried to compensate for things I'm no good at, especially when it comes to social situations. It's interesting to see that others here do the same.

I used to over apologize an people kept telling me "There is no need to apologize" so I cut back. Now I get told I don't do it.

No if I know I'm at fault I fess up.

I do.

It's not hard to say, "I'm sorry."

However, I don't want to mess with the other person's reactions. This inability to deal with it makes my apology come across as lame, I'm sure.

I apologize for EVERYTHING!! Even simple things, like accidentally over moving my piece in a board game, forgetting to turn the light out when I leave a room etc.
I am so terrified of offending people, that I'll usually apologize, even when I KNOW it's their fault, not mine!
I'm scared of people...period!