Relatives get along with strangers better than with you?

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Okay, I'm a bit peed off right now, and I'm not usually one to start these kinds of frustrated threads, but in my experience, my cousin and aunt (with whom I am living right now), tend to be really warm and friendly toward strangers who come into the house, or with loose acquaintances (who, for the sake of argument, are all NT).
And I'm just sitting there to the side watching it all, eating myself up. Because, especially my aunt, usually doesn't bother to make any kind of social contact with me, and when she does it's super super awkward. My cousin is better at talking to me.
But whenever there is an acquaintance/friend of hers over, she gets along with them like a house of fire. And also talks about all the shallow bs that I tend to avoid. Literally none of my relatives' acquaintances can talk about culture, science, arts, history, nature, etc. ,etc. It's all shallow BS. And I'm left there with these so-called 'social' people who can't be bothered to try and reach out to me, but do get along with what in my eyes are total strangers. That's quite hurtful.

Does anyone have the same experiences?

Aren't you used to that yet?

They don't get you. You are an alien to them. Your thought processes are 180 degrees different from the way they see the world. When you speak, they have no idea what you're talking about. It's not that they don't care about you, they just don't understand your language, and it's always going to be that way.

That's not to say you won't meet people from time to time that DO connect with you intellectually, but you just have to accept that the neurotypical brain is simply not capable of connecting on the same level as the Aspergian brain, so there's just not much in common to talk about. They're not excluding you on purpose, they just don't know how to include you.

Yeah, same, even with my parents and when I was a kid.