Do you channel frustration outwardly or inwardly?

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Until a year or two ago I was mostly inwardly channeled.
I beat myself up inside,and told myself that all my screw ups were exclusively my fault.
Sad as it may seem I found many people were more than happy to let me accept the blame if I took it.Some people rarely like to admit they made a mistake because of ego and self esteem.At the time I had none,so that was probably why i was such an easy target.

Not sure what exactly happened,but I eventually grew tired of destroying myself all the time.Instead of hating on myself I began to very harshly at times lash out in anger at those that tried to BS or push me around.At times I began to become the exact opposite of before;because I would fiercely deflect blame from myself even if I knew I was guilty deep inside.It was weird because even though I was still way hypersensitive about some things;other things like criticism of my habits or life choices that used to upset me just made me smirk or even laugh now.

I don't beat myself up on the inside or blame myself for everything and my self-esteem is usually rather good. I tend to blame other people and get really frustrated with them, but instead of expressing it outwardly I suppress it and keep it on the inside, where it just keeps building up until I explode and have a meltdown. That's not a good way to do it either, but I can't seem to find a better channel for my frustration. I don't know how to express it outwardly without making things even worse.

often, though, "its their fault that its my fault" because they maintain the laws, and if I break them, i'm guilty, even if the laws are unjust. that is nature. Then its everyones fault and I am just a line in between that system and whatever it was that clashed with it.

I tend to channel it inwardly for a while but I start changeling it outwardly after it builds up inwardly a while. I find posting about things helps me get it out in a more constructive way than beating myself up inside or having meltdowns with others

My natural tendency is to do it inwardly, which I did for decades. This would ultimately culminate in a meltdown (though always in private). Though my initial instinct is still to internalize, I'm much better at managing frustration and externalizing when appropriate now. I'm old though!

I usually let it bottle up inside of me until I have a very loud meltdown.