Am I being ignored or am I misreading cues?

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I want to clarify that I'm a high school student before starting.

So here's my story:
Even though I usually try to avoid large groups or crowds of people, and walk off in some calm place like an empty hallway, there are still some people who are very nice to me for no apparent reason, who always approach me, smile a lot when they see me/etc. These people usually always approach me even though I almost never approach them, often with their 'groups'. Most (about 5/6) people don't do that as they're too busy socializing with their friends in a common 'crowd'. They might approach once or twice, but as I never approach them, we usually don't talk. They do invite me with them whenever they're 'hanging out' together and see me passing by, though. However, most of the time, I try to get as far as I can from the 'crowd' and go somewhere else, to do something like browse 3G Internet, read a book, etc.

So today one of such 'nice' people was passing by as I was sitting on an empty yard on a bench. We greeted each other. I stood up, and asked him where he was going, to which he replied that he was going inside because it was too cold outside, in a slow voice, as if he was suffering from hypothermia. Now, I walk rather slowly, and he usually walks faster. While we were walking together, I ended up behind him, with him walking forward. Then I advanced, and we started talking about where we were going to sit. Then, when we found a place to sit, we had a normal conversation, during which he seemed to be nice and interested in the conversation. He never distracted from the conversation and maintained it, and so on.

Was this person trying to ignore me?

Another case was similar. One of the 'nice' people asked me something, then we had a very small conversation while walking forward. He seemed to advance faster than me. Then I thought I was being ignored, so I went in another direction. Then this person approaches me and starts walking with me again.


I don't understand this. Am I being ignored, or am I over-exaggerating ? When people advance faster than me, I don't really feel like talking to them anymore.

That doesn't seem like being ignored to me. People are trying to be friendly toward you.

You should keep pace with the nice people that chat you up. It is easy to do, and I really don't think they are conscious of their walking speed.

[Moved from General Autism Discussion to Social Skills and Making Friends]