Three's a crowd

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For most of my life I've always ended up hanging out with 2 other people, so I've always been in a group of 3, and I find it quite hard. I find the most domineering person is in the middle, and the other person is just the clingy one, and I'm the socially awkward one who either tags along without saying a word. Or, worse, I'm always trying to talk to the one in the middle and the person the other side is always talking too, but me and the person the other side are both closer to the middle one and so the poor middle one gets pulled around a lot, and demanded. It's always been the same.

Does a similar thing happen to anyone else?

Yes.

It came up in another thread before, but I myself have *no idea* how to handle a social chat among >2 people like a normal adult.

same thing here. I like talking to people one-on-one

Yes, I have experienced this, many times. If I have a good friend, I prefer to hang with them one-on-one, although I realize that normal people desire more varied social interaction with more people, so it's just a part of life I just try to enjoy if I can.

It sucks when you're with a friend, and then someone else decides to tag along and then you have to water-down your conversation/personality because you aren't close to the other person. It's even worse when your friend starts to ignore you...

Once I was talking with my best friend, i was all like: hold on! my iphones ringing. it was my other best friend so then I had to tell my other friend that i wasnt a friendship wrecker and infact that I could talk to both of my friends at the same time!

did this really happen? you decide, i'm going out tonite with alot of my friends. I think were going to go rollar skating after some pizza wedges.

I hope i can fit a movie in there somewhere. being popular sucks!

Yes same here as well. Sometimes I can break through it especially meetings and classes at university since i'm intelligent! Socially I feel bad.

i prefer one to one talk
and whenever its 3 people around then the conversation is always between them both whereas i am left out or just listening

I prefer the latter. It's less effort. If you can't get a word in edgeways, one (or both) of the others have the social skills problem, not you.

THIS.