All Aspies: Resort to lying if all looks hopeless

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Yes, we heard this many times: "Autistic people can't lie" or "I have Asperger's and I always tell the truth." There are times in life where you need to save your face and find a way out of disaster.

An example is when you're with a girl who asks if you're a virgin. You say "no" and appear confident so she'd expect you to have been experienced.

Or when an employer asks about extracurricular activities in college, make some up and talk in a way that a leader would. Lie on your resume. If you're an Aspie and very few clubs interest you, this might be a situation you'll encounter, so be ready.

I'm really frustrated writing this. I just had a bad phone conversation with a friend and I talked so much that he had to repeat the question twice: "how are you doing in school", that after 30 sec, he told me "Alright I'm having dinner with my family" and when I said "Ok goodb.." He hanged up so quickly. I have to use deception when I try making new friends so I don't come off as a loser.

Life has very high standards for those on the spectrum, and you can't appear innocent all the time, or else people will easily exploit your weaknesses so they can avoid/use/reject you.

Coming to that fact is sad. Personally, my philosophy on lying is to only use it as a means to buy time till you can tell a closer truth. I don't like doing it, but it indeed feels more like a last resort or a back pocket idea than anything. Sometimes, we have to shrug off what our mama taught us.

Question for those who don't lie - how do you get a job without lying on your CV? I've had over 50 jobs in my life I've read that it's common for Aspies to have had a lot of jobs. I've also walked out of many jobs due to anxiety issues. I cannot tell the truth about my jobs or my reasons for leaving or I'd never get another job. I agree with the OP that there are some situations where lying is the only option.

lying has a big word. on resume's, it is often called "beautifying", where you show things from the most positive side, without actually lying.
for example, you can say you were a member of the sports club board in college, but leave out that you were simply distributing coffee (which is stretching far, but not lying).
i myself have placed several certificates (which i do really have), without mentioning that i took more than twice the normal time to achieve them, or didn't even technically had yet (but was confident i would have in a few weeks from writing).

i myself try to abide by non-disclosure on most things, simply not mentioning details.

fictionals:
"i got fired becouse my boss didn't like me" (becouse i hit him in the face out of anger)
"i got my drivers' liscence at 21" (since it took me several attempts)

neither of the quotes are lies, but leaving out the part in brackets makes them less negative, noone needs to know the bracketed parts, not at first anyway

Not unless I'll starve if I don't. I'd rather become stronger than deceive and derail others.

I always felt I had to lie to get jobs. It was painful but I did it. Now I have my own business and I tell the truth to my clients. If they don't want what I can genuinely offer, then allowing them to hire me would only end in tears (literally! I cry a lot)

Lying to a sexual partner saying you're not a virgin is just silly. If they are a virgin themselves then they will be happy to have your first times together. And if they're not, do you really think they won't notice that you are ????