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My situation is when I was 18 we moved pretty far from where I grew up. I didn't have many friends there anyway and was usually just picked on. Where I live now there is nobody my age around to meet and even if there was I would probably be to scared to meet them. I usually make friends online but my mom thinks I'm going to make friends with a serial killer even though that could be possible if I were to make friends in real life. I have no idea where I could go about making friends in real life or even how to go about it. Any ideas?

You could always look online or in your local paper for groups near by that interest you.
Sometimes local high schools will offer classes and workshops. For instance, if you enjoy writing perhaps you could sign up for a writing class.

When I was 19 I intentionally hibernated and just went to work and back home and I had no friends. When I was ready, I found a coffee shop around the block from home and I started frequenting there. (I used to go to coffee shops all the time when I was 17, so I was no stranger to them.) I was so nervous and felt so out of place, but I took a reading book and a writing notebook and just enjoyed my time. Eventually a person approached me and I started talking with him, and from there I started making friends with the other people that went to that coffee shop pretty regularly. I now have a long-time best friend from the experience, even though everyone else that I met that way are now long gone.

Don't go looking for a friend. Look for things you enjoy doing, relax, get to know the people in your neighborhood (all ages), and enjoy living. A friend will come along eventually, and maybe when you least expect it.

(substitute "looking for a friend" in place of "looking for love" in the image below)

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I suppose that's difficult, I guess you could inquire to find out if there are any local youth clubs or classes in your area, even hospitals provide social events so definitely ask around them. Also try volunteering at a local charity shop or a hospital, that's a good way to meet people.

When i was 18 i moved away from family, and was in a very similar situation. From both my mistakes and blessing from then (and now) i would recommend to NOT 'look for a friend'. Instead find a hobby or interest, and as a result of you will find like minded people. This way you will also have something to talk about with these potential friends.

I made the mistake of looking for friends, or hobbies, which friends would like. I pretended that it was my family who was odd, and not me (and somehow moving away would mean things would change). 10 years later i realised what nonsense this was, I have got no friends, i have got limited family, i am homeless and most people/family think im odd, but these things i can live with. My biggest mistake is not keeping up with my own hobby, something that's mine and means something to me. Thus something i would recommend is to maintain and pursue your own interest/hobby.