Should I give them another chance?

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Okay, so there are two main friendship groups in my life. One is great, I've known them for a while, but then there's this one girl who keeps being mean to me (I keep thinking I'm lying whenever I talk about this but I know I'm not, has anyone else ever thought this?) and because I've been avoiding her and so everyone she hangs out with - the entire friendship group - it kind of feels awkward around them now and I can't be me like I used to. Going back to hang out with them is a no go.
Then there is the other friendship group. This is a group of really nice girls who know about my mean ex-friend mentioned above and who have said I'm welcome to hang out with them if I want to. However I don't really feel welcome there and I never get included, I just sit and listen to their talk. I have no idea how to behave around them, really, and I also know that while they're willing to let me sit with them, they'd be just as happy - probably happier - if I wasn't there. Recently I've started wandering around school on my own again like I used to before the second group of friends got involved and I was just trying to avoid my old friend. But I was doing that today and some people I don't know came up and asked if I was okay, and then one of the girls appeared and told me I could sit with them if I want. I had no idea what to do, should I go back or just wander around on my own and risk social situations like today with people who I don't know asking if I'm okay.

Maybe I should explain this a little more. I have already tried to explain to the mean girl how I feel about what she's saying but she just tells me I'm pathetic and I cant take a joke. I know she's mean to the others too but they can take it - she's not actually trying to be mean, it's just a joke. I'd never ask her to stop hanging around the others though because I know they like her and she likes them, but I've put up with this girl fir two years now and I can't any more.
Thanks for the advice about the others. I guess they do need to get to know me a bit more but it just seems like they're not making an effort to do so. I don't really feel welcome around them even though they always say I am welcome.

i have never been able to fit into any group or anything
always alone and comfortable with one friend

Thanks for the advice guys!
Turning it around on her and being mean back is something I've actually already tried but I can never think of something to say to her. She's always able to out-insult me whenever I do try insulting her back though.
I guess I should just spend some more time with the other group, although they seemed to be blocking me out today, and I never have enough courage to go up and sit with them without being invited anyway (this is just insecurities on my part, and I know I should just swallow the fear and do it, but it's never really that easy). Maybe in the long run I'll be more included by them. I think they are having a few problems of their own at the moment (if I got that annoyed at my friends for what her friends did to her I wouldn't have any friends left! Basically it's her birthday tomorrow and nobody could go to her party but they didn't tell her, but I never seem to get told anything anyway) and there's one of them who hasn't been in school for a while who tends to include me a bit more, so maybe it'll be better when she gets back.
namaste, if you're not comfortable in a big group then that's just who you are - you just need one friend who you're comfortable with and who accepts that you don't want to be in a group.