Face blindness problem--- need help.

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I have a problem and really need help. I have great difficulty recognizing people. Even people I know--- if they change their hair or something, I will cease to recognize them. This has proven to be a problem, so usually if someone walks up to me in a social situation and they seem to know me, I try and pretend that I remember them and that usually works.
Today, I met with a group (I I went with a friend) of people. They had coffee and were nice to us. Afterwards, I got in my car to leave and a woman was right there in the parking lot. She came right up to my car and seemed to know me. I thought she must be from the get together, and she seemed to recognize me. She asked for a ride so I said yes. But after a few minutes of her speaking, I realized that she was not from the group. She was a drunk person who came from a nearby bar. I thought "uh oh". If I could remember/recognize people I would have known she was a stranger. But when EVERYONE looks like a stranger, life is hard. Being social is hard. Is there anything I can do or are there mind exercises I can do to help me remember people/faces? It is becoming more than embarrassing, it is potentially a danger. Please, any help would be greatly appreciated.

This is relatively common for people on the spectrum. I have it myself though not as strongly as you.
How are you at recognizing voices? Hearing people's voices helps me identify them, though it obviously doesn't work so well in a noisy environment.

My face-blindness is nowhere as severe as yours, sometimes I walk by people because I didn't recognise them, since I am accustomed to think of people in contexts, if I run in to them in a place I am not accustomed to see them I am more likely to not notice them even if they salute me, I've had situations where people think I've been ignoring them and even when I explain them I didn't see them they don't believe me. This happens to me with people I know well but if I don't them I'm much more "blind" to recognise them.
What I do and I hope you find this useful, is to look for very specific traits that help me recognise them, like a mark, mole, hair colour, make-up and such. I also go by voice but I usually figure out who it is by looking for these traits.