Where do you make friends if you can't go anywhere alone

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Because you don't have any friends.

How would you meet people?

go to those meetup places by yourself, alone.
there are many places where you can go for that, but theatre/musical performances are the best choises for someone on the spectrum (not a rockband show, but the local symphony), as there are few sensory issues in those situations, and the people there are usually well-educated and friendly to strangers (in my experience)

Are you asking whether or not going out is possible unless you have friends?

If so you can still go out by yourself for certain things. Although doing things with others is far better. For example going to eat out, is not that great when you're on your own. How does one make friends if he/she doesn't have any at present? I have no idea to be honest. I've just accepted I'm gonna be a loner for the rest of my life. But you're at that age where going out with family is still better than having no friends to go out with. Why don't you go out with cousins or other relatives.

How often do you go to Mosque for prayers? A lot of times you find people your own age there, and it's easier to talk and get to know them in such a setting.

Sounds really good! Here in the Netherlands, people who visit these concerts beside me, are:

1. 65+ years of age.
2. Not sincerely interested in the music; they want to play the role of intellectual.

:'(

How about trying something with a hobby or interest? If you are a muslim, indeed, visit a mosque or go to religious Koran clubs? If you're into metal, try to talk to people who share your interest? Go on a sport? Join a local art club?

It's still hard though. It also makes me wonder how such a first friend would react to the fact he/she is your FIRST one.

How do you know other members of the audience aren't interested in the music? Seems a bit of an odd generalisation to make, really and surely there is no music which is for intelluctuals only.

I love classical music. It's sheer beauty. But now, look at a certain type of people who visit such concerts. They make sure they use difficult words, and that they look VERY sophisticated. I knew some of those, there're quite a lot of people looking at art and literature to look intelligent. Unbelievable but true.

Dude, you love classical music?? You and I gotta chat at some point!!

To answer the OP, really, I'd agree with i_wanna_blue - find people (at school, mosque, wherever you like being) and trying to form bonds that way!

Just go talk to random people at random places and hope they continue to communicate with you. If they're annoyed at you/think you're weird, then stop talking to them as much. Pretty much what I do.