Fellow Aspergers nerds (who graduated): I'm 15 and I still a

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I need to act more manly and normal.

I'm kind and sincere but I appear naive.


There are occasionally people who try to be nice, but they come off as patronizing.

This one random chick in my English class told me to sit down by her and she treated me like her son. lol it was hilarious to me because of how she was trying to be an adult.


But I don't to be treated as a boy by women, I want to be a man. I try to be sexy and chivalrous.

So I'm asking the Aspies who are at least in college or past that.


How do I act more "normal"?

I'm extremely uncomfortable not knowing anybody in my 6500-person high school, so at least it shows I have feelings.

I'm of the mindset that we don't need to act "normal". We are our own person with our own identity. However, if you're compelled to act "normal", you may try observing others around you...their mannerisms, speech patterns, body language, etc. It is through this that one can learn to mimic what they need to adapt. You'll never change who you are and you shouldn't need to for anyone. When I want to be a ghost to people, I tend to stay silent and just observe. People perceive you as quiet, but normal that way, at least in my experience.

As far as that girl, I'm sure she was only trying to help you, as a mentor role of sorts. She wasn't trying to be an adult in the strictest definition, but rather just helpful. She may turn out to be more understanding and accepting than most people. If I were you, I would watch her and she may help you as well in your quest to act "normal".

And yes...this is what I did to blend in with others in school. I stayed quiet and watched what other people did. I, however, never took their traits as my own. Some people can be flat out ugly as far as their personality goes, so choose carefully what you mimic. I don't view myself as the most helpful person ever so I hope this helps a little.

I cant tell you how to act more normal in HS, since I certainly didnt. But I can tell you one thing. I'm sure its not uncommon for aspies to receive childlike treatment from their more nurturing peer members. We often times have more naivety then your average person, and are lost in the social realm. The peer often thinks their doing a good thing as oppose to being picked on. But I have grown to find it a belittling gesture. For me, as I learned to hold my own with my peer group, the belittling gestures diminished over time.