Too picky when it comes to friends?

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I usually would make friends with people who share the same interests as mine (that is if I knew how to make friends). However, they're aren't any like me where I'm from and the kind of people who approach me turn out to be complete opposite of who/what I am. I reject them instantly knowing I'm nothing like them and also because I'm an Aspie.

Any here feel the same way?

Basically, I usually choose friends who are similar to me in the way of interests and behaviour and I also tend to gravitate towards the "mothering" type of friend.

I would simply say that if you do not enjoy the time you spend with them, why keep them? But then I do not have any friends so you might take that into the equation before following my advice ...

Shared topic of interest may be less important for me than an approximately-similar desire to learn things and/or talk about certain things with others. As an example, I don't know a lot about biochemistry but there's a person I speak to semi-regularly who's happy to talk about her work in the field. And I tend to get along with people who have a curiosity and/or fascination with languages. Occasionally, these folks find it enlightening (or amusing?) to hear of experiences with recreational pharmaceuticals.

You're not alone. I have a tendency to push people away and be very withdrawn. It's almost as if I'm afraid to let people get close to me. I have very few friends. It's strange though, it's almost as if I have no desire to make friends with people. I am content with being alone 90% of the time or more.

I am not too picky. Socialising is difficult and usually not worth the effort. By being extremely choosy with my friends, I have friends who are worth the effort.

ShelfInTheRoom - i feel the same as you do. if people will get too close to me, they will hate me for who i am.
and Who_Am_I - i've given up the effort to make friends or meet people 'cos they so judgemental. it ain't worth it.

Whats the point ?

I guess I am picky. I'm too stubborn to open up to people now in high school. There are some good people, but there's more than meets the eye. Back in middle school, I was still reserved, shy, and odd, but I wasn't as picky with friends. I knew about half of the school. But I still wasn't very social, I just met them through other friends who encouraged me to socialize more.

I liked my old school better, in high school, there's really no one that stands out. It might just me being stubborn, but all I see are shades of grey, and I seem to stand out too much if I really let them know about me. In middle school, a lot of people were completely different from each other, people had close friends whom were their exact opposites, so if you stood out and seemed like an oddball, it was the norm for the school. There was pride in being different back then, now it's all about fitting in.

I'd rather have a friend who will hear me out and not have the same interests rather than a friend who has the same interests, but will not hear me out. It would be nice if I could have a conversation with someone with the same interests and still would let me talk though. I don't really like rambling about the Many Worlds Theory or Einstein's Theory of Relativity one second, and having the other person start talking about clothes and makeup the next.

Y'all need to get a ham radio license, put up antenna's and come on down to the 80 and 160 meters with me at night.

On those bands, you can find people who can discuss most any topic in the world.

I don't always think that it is necessary to make real living friends as much as it does to interact with others and interact well.

The nice thing about amateur radio is - if you do not like what the other people are saying, you can always shut it off.