How do I get rid of this guy?

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He's a bus driver. Which makes it all the more harder. He drives the bus I take almost every day. We became friends because he asked to hangout with me after having some good conversations on the bus. Then I found out he's kind of chauvanistic, and when we were sitting at Mongolia Express eating, he started insulting a group of girls standing right in front of us. At first I was so shocked I kind of just tried to see it from his point of view. Then I woke up this morning and was like "That's so wrong. That made me feel really uncomfortable. This guy is crazy." And he really is kind of crazy. He's very anxious. I don't mind that he abuses synthetic speed either but he's kind of creepy. He's a nice guy, but he's definitely creepy. He let me drive his car b/c I've never driven one. So that was really cool and we blazed. But for the most part I don't like hanging out with the guy and would prefer to die alone than be his friend.

Get a different bus.

Does he know of your diagnosis?

Perhaps the next time he tries being friendly, just tell him you're not at all in the mood to talk or socialize.

Also, sit as far away from him as possible. Bring a book. Make it obvious that you aren't open to social interaction.

Yeah he knows. He even researched it.

1. People on drugs/booze are not safe behind the wheel of a car or BUS! Don't ever knowingly ride with any one high on anything, and don't drug/drink and drive yourself. I don't want to meet you in a head on collision!

2. Next time he tries to socialize, just tell him the two of you are not a match, so you don't want to waste both your time and his with pointless dating or hanging out.

3. And definitely take a different bus.

I agree with what questor wrote.

Also, don't people in transportation have to take random drug tests? It's crazy that he's a driver.

well. i mean, this calls for friend sabatoge dude..

unfriending him could get complicated. steal his ice brah, watch him dump you as a friend real quick!

This may be a guy you will have a hard time alienating. Instead of dropping him, try to be his friend make your disapproval known. He may decide to stop being your friend.

Well, given that you are an aspie, you probably had enough disapproval in your life. You don't want a disapproval from one more person. Nor do you really want to say its because of your Asperger either -- you had enough things going ''because of your Asperger'', you don't need one more thing.

How about something else. Make it clear it is HIS fault and tell him exactly what it is he did. That way, FOR ONCE, you have a social situation in which you are not ''the loser''. Now, in order for this not to be turned around, bring some of your friends along. First tell your friends about the bus driver when he is NOT around. Get them on your side. Then after that bring them along with you to talk to bus driver. Pretend you are just socializing, no bad intentions. Then the next time he says something, just team up against him TOGETHER with your friends. That would be a huge boost to your self esteem.

He hates Jews, and he supports genocide so I could just tell him that I'm Jewish.

Well, confronting him and saying what you don't like at him is an option, as everyone has been saying. But if you are the non-confrontational kind of person, you can always distance yourself to him, give short answers to his questions, then he'd either take the hint and leave you alone, get frustrated and leave you alone, or try harder. In the third case... guess you would have to be upfront about it then.