Obsessions towards others

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Specifically others with ASD.

Does anyone have any experience of this, please? I was accused of it a few years and never admitted it. I never denied it either. (I just ignored the subject completely)

I have finally come to the conclusion that the person involved is right...

Yes I have and recently too.

Yes, in retrospect, at least twice in my life maybe more a women was my special interest. The most recent was my wife for the first 3-4 years of our relationship. Of course I didn't realize it at the time.

I've been guilty of obsessing over various people since I was 6.

As for others with ASD, you could say that I have an interest in them too. I'm interested in "profiling" their strengths, areas of difficulty, interests, and general behaviours in order to see how they can be best served (since I'm an autism educator who is often sought out for advice on this population).

Obsession towards other people was something that I've had to deal with too but when I started thinking simply it would help if that makes any sense at all.

Thanks. It's nice to know I'm not alone in this. He knows and hasn't said anything. (as expected)

I’ve been obsessed with a few people throughout the years. None of them had (known or presumed) ASDs though.

i am obsessed with a guy from last 4 years.
he was fedup with my clingy behaviour and finally avoided me.
its erotomania i am unable to cure it.

Don't do it. It usually is someone who you feel has all the right traits, adn is your "meal ticket" to social success. Just focus on people in your own sphere, who actually are nice to you, though it might not seem as fun or glamourous heck of a lot better than nothign ( which is what a lot of aspies have )

It's too late now. I realised a few years ago this why I used to act the way I did with him.

Uhm, well, I do seem to be able to ramble on about amusing/disturbing things that happen with my old friends back at my old school the same way I ramble on a special interest. I feel like I'm bent on being reassured that they aren't normal people.

I've finally found out that they weren't normal, and that explains why I hate high school so much. No one here acts the same way my old friends did. As far as I am aware, none of them have ASDs. They're just very... atypical neurotypicals.

A year ago, I was OBSESSED with this one girl. We had OPPOSITE interests. OPPOSITE views. And I would even flip out when she offered her alternate views. Everyone I knew was trying to get me to realize we would never work! I wouldn't listen. I recently thought the thought, go on FB and defriend her! But then I realized how stupid that would be. I might even tell her why I was so weird some day.

Recently, I became kindof OBSESSED with this new girl. She is a single mom. We went on a few dates. I even took her daughter. But I am just now realizing how impatient I was being constantly texting her etc. My god, she's about to graduate too and she's trying to save up to get a new place for her and her baby. I need to give her space. It's not like an unnatural attraction IMO. She is such a great mom and full time student and taking care of her baby? I'm not a creep! I see an awesome girl who is smart, responsible, and attractive who might need a hand every once in a while, and I want to help! But alas, I was wayy too intense and I honestly don't know if telling her that I suspect AS would help or hurt the situation. I guess this girl was becoming an obsession, just because I had feelings and I didn't think they were going anywhere. In reality, I should have let her take on the world until summer...

I usually get too obsessed with my boyfriends which leads to unhealthy relationships. I'm trying to learn from that mistake right now though.

I do and it's horrible. At school, I was obsessed with a teacher- wanted to be around her all the time, took all of her subjects and really wanted her to like me. She complained about me and it was one of the most hurtful things I've experienced. It happens a lot- I fixate on a particular person (usually someone who's been nice to me at some point) then want to call/text/email them all the time, and if they don't reply, I assume they don't like me or I've annoyed them, then I get so worked up about it and don't know what to do that I end up annoying them trying to find out! It's nothing sexual/erotic though, I just want the person to like me or want to be around them :/, and it really gets to me. Especially since it's usually people who are a lot older than me and probably don't want to spend time with me or find me annoying, lol. Anyone else had that experience?