Do people get bothered without saying or

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Really giving you any hint?
Because they expect you to realize it yourself?


Especially if you are a stranger or not close and they can't talk to you about it?

Is this what generally happens?

it depends on the person.

some people are more direct than others. some will tell you "i'm bored". some will try to give subtle hints. will try to be polite as long as they can, until the interaction with you is over.

i find there are 2 ways you can check if they are bored (without them having to say it directly)

- do they give you short one word answers
- do they initiate anything at all, or do they just reply to what you say rather than bring up.

Yes all the time, I've found it best to just not care.

If a person avoids you then assume that they are bored with you.

There was a lady who used to talk with me she used to live in the same building where i live she generally used to avoid
me like she would say hello and then say i have go to the market bye etc.

But if she saw anyone else she would stop and chat with that person but often avoid me
Once when i was sitting alone on the bench where she usually sits she came and sat across on the other bench and her friends joined her there
so it was assumed that she doesnt want to indulge with me anymore and just keep a hello and bye relationship

If a person avoids you, there could be many reasons for it besides boredom. For example, it could be fear; disgust; you stink; your very existence is irksome; you are extremely difficult to socialise with; they don't 'get' you; they feel guilty about something, and don't want you to find out; you are culturally incompatible; you used to be lovers, but the relationship ended and they now hate you; you did something to annoy them; they just don't like you for whatever reason. The difficulty is finding out what it is, because in my experience they won't always tell you even if you ask directly.

good point but many many people avoid me
it was none of the reason you mentioned above
fear - why would she fear me I am a calm person
Disgust - but why i am not into any inappropriate behaviour
stink- i am a cleanliness freak
difficult to socialise - could be since i am withdrawn, shy and introvert

and rest of the points again are not valid here.