Constantly being outed

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One of my friends is an aspie, and totally up-front about it. I think he told me ether the first time we met, or within a week, and I might have said "yeah, me too" or some such, but he must have forgotten it, because the next time I brought it up, his response was something along the lines of "wow, really?" then after a pause "yeah, that makes sense."

I almost never bring AS up in a conversation, and don't usually chime in when it does. However, he is fond of bringing it up, and he'll occasionally (I can only remember this happening a couple of times) introduce me to people with "he has AS too." I'm not entirely sure why it bugs me so much that he'd do this, or what (if anything) I should say to him about it.

just ask him straight out but politely not to do it. no explanation necessary.

Yes, tell him it's confidential.

(I keep forgetting to do that re- other subjects, in conversation with an NT. And she talks to the wrong people. Not good.)

There are some things that everyone should keep confidential.

- Financial info
- Personal ID type of info
- Credit card and credit info
- Medical info
- Computer accounts info
- Account info to all your bills.
- Drivers License #
- Family issues--private family matters should be kept private, unless intervention is needed by doctors, police, or child protective service, elder care advocate, etc.

All of this should only be dispensed on a need to know basis. If you do want to talk about a health or disorder of your own with friends and relatives that's okay, as long as the person is not the gossipy type. Basically, if you don't want something about you told all over the place, then keep it too yourself. Other wise you only have yourself to blame for being the start of the gossip trail on your own personal info.

(Indeed.
I only have myself to blame for being the start of a gossip trail in my toxic biofamily due to sharing personal information with my sweet sister...who talks alot.

Dam.)