How neuroscience can teach you to lie

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http://www.dumblittleman.com/2009/01/ho ... o-lie.html

When I came across this article, I were surprised of how similar it descripes lying to how I feel in an ordinary conversation. And the description of how you are supposed to feel when you are not lying, are how I feel when I get to talk about something I am very interested in with someone I am comfortable talking to. Perhaps this is the answer to why Aspies are such crappy liers, and/or why they usually tell the truth.

This lead me to believe it might be like that for everyone with Asperger's? Or is that more of a trait from my social anxiety?

How did you feel it compared to how you behave/feel in a conversation were you are telling the truth?

Stumble upon Paul Ekman, his research was ground breaking,

he changed the world in the past few years and no one noticed.

The TV series 'lie to me' was based on Paul ekman's work and he had lots of input on the program.

This is a concept I was just thinking about today. I'm looking forward to reading the article, and any discussion that might ensue here

I actually do not find it that hard to lie....unless its something super important and lyng about it could cause more problems. But sometimes I have to be a little dishonest because not doing that would cause more problems.

This is an interesting discussion.
I, too, have felt that telling the truth feels like lying. I am aware where it stems from though. In my case it is related to overthinking and perfectionism. Even if it is a regular daily topic, I feel as if I'm lying when I do not provide enough evidence or fail to be specific at a certain point. I will feel guilty or uncomfortable... which immediately turns into a heavy baggage of a pathological liar...

Lying is very easy for me. I don't think about my body, or over think other people's reactions, I just focus on saying the words.

I know how to lie just fine...and I like to be truthful but sometimes its not a good idea.

Sometimes I feel like I'm "lying" in order to maintain a normal conversation. Like, instead of make the facial expressions and body mannerisms that are inherent, I know I must manually move my eyebrows, smile more, and stare into the face of the person I'm addressing. This even though I want to listen and stare into space. Aspies (at least myself) are unintentionally offputting and I need manual control to manipulate the situation in my favor.

I have a hard time lying because, as least when its a white lie, have a tendency to smile or laugh about it. But I also act like that if I say something I think the person thinks I'm saying is a lie.

So in summary, I'm a social mess. To state the obvious.

Social conversation can feel like the above an awful lot.

It is sort of like I am method acting, imagining a well-adjusted, sociable person, and then simulating that person, sometimes for hours. That extra work is, well, extra work. It is noticeable and it is draining.