crossed the boundaries and hurt a best friend...

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Okay so i basically dont have many friends but the ones i do have im really close to and i like to think i am a good friend im loyal super caring an EXCELLENT advise giver and other stuff im sure, but boy did i really blow it this time... One of my Friends whom i was very close to i recently totally crossed a line and i betrayed her trust...

She has been having a terrible time in her art class and i have tried to help her as much as i can but i live in a different state than her so my art help is limited... she really was excited when she joined the class (drawing one) but last week she said she had had enough she hated it... it was her 3rd not great grade a C in a row and it was totally bogus... she spent 15 hours on the peice and gets a C! this is drawing one buddy... so she says she is sure the teacher hates her so here is where i mess up for the first time... i emailed the teacher as a fellow artist and critiqued his teaching style and explained how the grading scale should be varried based on talent, effort, and product... i kept it as polite as i could and even compemented him where he was doing well but i wrote basically 2 pages on it... :c

Soooo last night i am doing damage control her dad is bi polar and in one of the down stages (not working, living through his son, and getting angry at her bad grades and not focusing on the positive ones and her strong relationship with jesus (she wants to go to bible school)... so i have been helping her feel better for about an hour or so and then for some idiotic reason i decide to tell her about the email i sent (by this time the teacher had responded and said that i should advise my friend to talk to him)... so i didnt want her to be shell shocked the next morning in class so i sent her a copy,... Btw othe second i sent the email i knew i was in trouble and i told one of my other best friends sarah who is also an aspie about it but she said it was no biggie i didnt see how ... and i was right... my friend texted me asking why would i do something like that... oh here is where it gets even better

so i respond i dont know why and had a huge apology but i had also stupidly mentioned that i may have had feelings for her (btw i already told her this before and she said she did not fel same way back so we just remained friends very close friends for a few months and then this last week i guess after getting to know her even better i strted having feelings again... that is prob one of the reasons i did what i did....) so i mentioned that although i am not even sure if she picked up on it because she was so stressed about the other situation. I also mentioned tho that i would NOT do anything to jeopradize our friendship i just wanted her to know that i still had the feelings...

So needless to say we are taking time to ourselves apart but i sent the most sincere apologies and she did forgive me right away even thought i was only thinking of myself and not considering her... soo thats it....

Relationships of any kind can be sooo complicated.
I don't see how you were 'only thinking of yourself and not considering her'...wasn't the whole 2 pages written specifically to help her out? But the main thing is she's forgiven you for crossing the line.
Can't help but agree with your aspie friend who says it's no biggie. She probably took it all the wrong way because her father is so difficult to be around, so she was already highly stressed.
Time is a good healer...things can then get back to simple, for a while anyway