Text message invite from an aquaintance--advice please

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So a few minutes ago I got a text message from an acquaintance. I have met her in person a couple of times, as she is a "friend of a friend". We have a mutual interest, and we did plan to eventually hang out and do our hobby. She has messaged me recently about a sports team that she likes that my parents also like. (She somehow thinks that I like these team too which is a whole nother' story)

anyway, suddenly, at 9:45 at night she messages me this forwarded message. Fwd: Fwd: Fwd: "Hey my really good friend would you like to go to [place or person's house i have never heard of before] on Saturday the 28 for karaoke at [early evening time to ungodly early night/morning time] P.S. you don't have to stay long!! !! !! !! !"

was this an accidental text? it didn't seem like anyone else was included in the message, but it may just be my phone. She has HFA so i'm wondering...

I just don't know how to ask if she really was inviting me, and how to turn her down. Help please!

I would assume it was meant to be for you.
And if it were me receiving it, my response would be, "Thankyou, but I'm not into karaoke, enjoy "
Something like that.

I'd go for sure, I doubt it was accidental. Sounds like it might be fun! If you want to find out if it was, just text her back and ask for directions to where it is located, and say you're not sure yet if you'll be able to make it. Even if it was a complete accident and you're the last person in the world she'd want to invite, she did indeed send you the invite so it's completely up to you whether you wish to accept it or not.

i would just ask her something more about this outing
that way i can get it confirmed whether the message was indeed for me
or was it accidental.

That just sounds shifty to me, but then again, none of my friends would forward for the third time down the food chain a message about another friend wanting someone to show up some place for karaoke.

I would probably send a rather simple message back asking, "Was this meant for me? I'm not really into karaoke."

It let's the other person know that you aren't sure if the message is even supposed to be for you, and that the other person doesn't appear to be showing signs of knowing your actual interests in the case that it was a legitimate invite.

Well, I was going to take your advice. I was. Yesterday I had no time at all to respond, so I Planned on today. I had a *very* long night last night. Early this morning I get the same message from her but with "tex back" at the end. It woke me up. I fell back asleep. 20 minutes later, another text. which woke me up. again. "Can you go this Saturday?"

It is now almost 4 in the afternoon and I've finally woken up. I seriously needed the sleep. She texts me, again. "Can you go this Saturday? Tex back."

I'm just like...Whaa? People may be busy. There is no obligation to respond as soon as you send the message. I might have had my phone off, or not near me. I might have been in the middle of something important.

Since I'm more than a bit annoyed, not sure who the person/place is, and not sure who will be there, I'm going to have to say something akin to "I was very busy today. I can't go on Saturday I've already got plans." Does that sound okay?

Yep - that sounds just fine. Straight and to the point.

As an aide, yeah, this person sounds really annoying. She might be a really nice person, but seems to care more about Party, Party, Party than making any real connections with people, which for some people, the more they party and are "seen to be seen", the more they are making connections, just really flaky ones.