Popular people can get away with breaking social rules

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Sorry about keep adding new threads to the forum, but I've become rather obsessed with social interaction lately, and I've thought of something else.

Today I was on Facebook, and I saw my cousin had posted a video (taken by someone else in the car) of herself driving, and had a cuddly toy kind of on the steering wheel too (holding it there by it's arms with her hands that were on the wheel of course), and her and her friends were all laughing in the car (not in a nasty way, just in a sociable way because they thought she was funny). But I know that if that was me driving with a cuddly toy on the steering wheel too, people would just think I'm weird and would just think, ''what are you doing with your cuddly toy? Grow up, weirdo!''

And I know that the difference is my cousin is popular whereas I'm not (obviously). I'm not saying she's broken a social rule but usually people would criticise if you were seen with a cuddly toy like that. And I don't just mean that, there are other silly things that popular people can do and be even more socially accepted, but if an introvert/solitary person done it they would be less socially accepted. I wonder why life works this way?

Simple. They laughed WITH her because they knew she was just being silly. If you did the same thing, they would suspect you were serious and/or had true, unironic affection for the toy and then laugh AT you. Because to them, if you're weird in one way, you're weird in other ways too, and they won't give you the benefit of the doubt.

I've learned throughout life it's usually best to just be completely oblivious to social rules, but still confident as all hell. Your confidence in general seems to cover over a lot of social "sins" if that makes sense. I have a friend that at times is awkward as can be, but he's just so confident that he just...gets stuff done. I've been influenced a lot by him, and I mean, he's "weird" but, he gets stuff done, just because he's confident.

An example is this, his friend was in the car with him, his friend was like "I'm hungry." My friend was like "I bet you right now I could get some sandwiches for free from that convenience store." And his friend is like "No you can't!" So he walks in, spends like 5 minutes inside, talks to the people for a little bit, I think he told me he talked to them about their phone or something, and then asked if they had any sandwiches they were gonna throw out. They did, and he got the sandwiches. So, it's weird, as he's a pretty socially active dude, but definitely does awkward things like that, and he just has enough confidence in what he's doing that it sorta evens out, just by uh...having balls of steel. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qjPQYdTYmKM Pretty much like that.

Yes, the other posts about doing it ironically or whatever, too.

It's sort of different, as a guy you're just expected to have "balls of steel," and as long as you're confident enough, you can do whatever you want really. For women, I'm guessing things are a bit different.

If you are already interested in social interaction, you should look into this:
http://www.lifetrainingonline.com/blog/ ... ccount.htm

Also it matters how people know you.
For example: If you are very serious person, people are going to expect you to be serious. When you try make a joke, chances are big they won't perceive it as a joke.