told to be less annoying...

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I was chatting with a "supposed" friend, during an outreach session for my church, she was someone I was asked to reach out to, because I already knew her and she is close to my age, but during this outreach session, as well as gloating about how she's happily married and about to give birth, she said that to be a better friend and one day become someones girlfriend and then wife I had to stop being so annoying,

I did not even know I was annoying, apparently I have a really irritating high-pitched squeal (I already know this because I've had it for as long as I can remember) What doesn't help is that I have absolutely no idea of not talking like that and it does only happen when I get upset or excited, I think.

Any thoughts? and yes, this woman can be really bitchy (can I use that word in this forum?), but no, I can't really avoid her, so comments like that won't help, but please, I will be greatful for any advice you can give.

It's most likely not you! The other person was rude. Some people just like to insult others to make themselves feel better.

Get a second opinion.
Ask others -- who you know are honest yet diplomatic -- whether you are annoying or no, and if so what it is etc. so that you might work on yourself.

If trusted people whom you respect don't find you annoying, she's just being nasty, in which case let it go and be friendly/polite... but don't engage in any closer way.

Make her life miserable and intentionally annoy her as much as possible every time she is around you. If she is going to be mean to you like that, then she deserves to be annoyed.

Hi there. I've noticed that you've mentioned that you were gloating about that church woman being married and pregnant. If you obsessively talk about the same topic with the same person more than once, then that person will feel turned off and annoyed. So if you've been talking about the church woman's marriage and pregnancy more than once with her, then this could be what's annoying her a lot. One social rule is that people talk about a different topic with one another each day.

However, if I were you, I'd still ask the church woman what you have done to inadvertently annoy her. If she continues to be mean to you, then alienate her.[/quote]

No, I wasn't the one gloating, she was. Sorry if that bit was unclear. I barely mention her marriage or pregnancy to her. It was about how I speak not what I say.