How do I put my foot down?

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I had recently been let go from a job about 4 months ago but found another one. I had worked under the same person for 8 years and I had invited her to a party last month to acknowledge them. I had also invited several other co-workers to this event in addition to other friends of mine. Only one out of all of them rsvped while the others did not. I never even got a call or so much as a thank you from any of them or any thing. The biggest is that I feel insulted. Even if they were busy with other things, it still bothers me that they did not have the time to say no. So, it ended up being a social gathering for my friends and I which was fun. At the same time, it hurt.

Does anyone else on here have the same problem and what should I say without putting someone on the offense? I am mad at them and I acknowledge that. At the same time, I need to curve my anger.

It would've been nice and thoughtful of them to RSVP, but they were not obligated to. That's human nature. Don't get angry over it and just move on.

I wanted to have a thank you party for the boss and even they turned me down. They also could not have the courage to tell me one way or another, "Thank you but maybe another time." That is what I am the most upset at is that behavior.

Summer, please let it go for your own peace of mind. I used to entertain a lot and learned that folks, in general, simply don't rsvp for anything less than wedding receptions.

There are a kajillion reasons they should rsvp but they just don't. It's not worth your injured feeling and anger, because it's much more universal than personal.

I am going to let it go. However, the boss did tell me one time that if something like this bothers me, to speak with them about it.

People are just flaky sometimes. I wouldn't take it personally.

Do you mean your ex-boss? That open-door relationship may no longer be valid if you are no longer working at that place of business, but I don't know what kind of non-working relationship you had/have with your ex-boss to know that for sure.

Also, your expectations of others regarding this party is something that was discussed in your other post about this same situation. You set your expectations pretty high that others would RSVP and participate in your planned party. They were under no obligation to attend nor to RSVP. It's annoying when you were expecting them to attend and/or RSVP. Your anger either needs to be channeled towards changing the world to go back to the more proper ways of doing things, or you need to accept that people aren't going to change and this is about par of what you can expect out of people in the future.

Don't give up on throwing parties, though.

That is true. I wasn't that close with my former boss when we were together. However, she did invite everyone of her employees to her things and I usually went because I enjoyed them. We were not ever buddy buddy though. At the same time, whenever someone got married or got a new home or got a new job, she seemed to attend their things or got them gifts and cards.

I had a house warming party another time and she did not attend that and she did not even bother to get me a card or any gift.

I guess I am still bitter at her about that situation and I do need to let it go.

Miyah