My BF of 20+years was just an acquaintance

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I always knew she was shallow and manipulative, but I thought she really cared. Now that she's had some success in her life, it's impossible to talk to her. She only communicates via Fakebook, and I don't have access to it anymore now that our home internet got cut off. If she was really a friend, you'd think she'd try to keep in touch anyway, but she's too busy to even send an email to see if I'm alive or dead.

Take that as a sign to move on and make new friends.

Friendships come and go like the tide. There's no reason to think that your friend wasn't once your best friend and now is not at that same level of being a best friend. It doesn't mean that your friendship wasn't real before or was merely an acquaintance, but that the friendship has changed over time. Friendships take time to grow, and then sometimes they gradually fade away. Multimedia has done a lot to keep people staying friends longer than if they didn't have that way of communicating, but it's perfectly natural for a friendship to fade over time as life changes for the people as well.

I'd like to expand on NicoleG's a little.

I have found some people (both NT and AS) when they get a taste of success/power/love/etc loose all grounding. It's almost like how someone who is in a special interest can tune the world out.

It's happened to me; I'm sure I've done it to someone once. I wouldn't write off the 20 years. Keep the door open; if she burns everyone, she will meet the fate of Icarus.