Social Hierachy

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Well in my office there is groupism. And if you notice the groups its between the stronger, confident people V/s the naive, shy, quite people.
But the peculiar thing about this 2 different groups is that the stronger group always mocks fun of the quieter group i belong to the quieter lot and i am targeted often.
Today my colleague again commented that i have started opening up and earlier i was very quite and tongue tied........this is the 3rd time she has made this comment within 1 weeks span.
One person told me that she was making comments about me when i was not around also.

The stronger group always indulges in bullying, making comments and gossiping whereas the quieter groups talks about general topics
Many of the people who are quite are trying hard to fit into the stronger group by buttering them up and being very sweet with them which i have never tried doing.
So is the defect with me..........why i should be labelled with schizoid or Aspie
Why are they not labelled ret*d?

I've never really experienced this at work because I haven't really worked in large staff teams. It seems they haven't been big enough to break up this way. But it makes perfect sense to me that a workplace or other organisation would more often than not break up into a group of bold people, and a group of shy people.

I hadn't thought of the boss aspect. This is why I'm lucky nowadays in my current job, probably because it's in the charity sector, where my bosses haven't been conceited egotists.

When I did voluntary work at a charity shop, there was loads of bitchiness there but there wasn't a group of confident people and a group of shy people. What made it so cliquey was the manager had favourites, and she was a mate to her favourites and just a miserable boss to her non-favourites, and her favourites couldn't see the bitchy side of her, and her non-favourites couldn't see the nice side of her. And to be her favourite, it doesn't matter if you're shy or confident, it's how weird you aren't. She was quite wird herself (I found), but because she had normal social skills and this cocky attitude, most people couldn't see the weird side of her, probably also because she was in authority too. Obviously I wasn't one of her favourites because I was ''too weird'' for her, and I could tell she feared weirdness in people (even though she was quite weird herself). The others didn't mind my weirdness, but this woman disliked me for it, and always made me work out of her way so she wouldn't have to deal with me.

I couldn't be arsed with that sort of behaviour, so I walked out. If I was being part time paid job, I probably would of been able to put up with it better, but I found I did not want to be treated like that as a volunteer. So me leaving is her loss.

If I was confronted with any supposed social hierarchy, I'd probably leave the job...I mean I have no problem doing the job and such the employer asks for, but If I am expected to take that kind of treatment from other employees or the employer then they can find a new employee. I dealt with enough of that crap when I was child, I don't need to subject myself to such an environment now.