Birthday forgotten, return the "favour"?

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A friend of mine..one of my few, if not the only one(family excluded), forgot my birthday this year, and did not mention it when we met a month later. He didn't congratulate me on facebook, or text message, or tried to call me.

His birthday is coming up. Should I act like I forgot his birthday too? Is that the way he wants that part of our relationship to work now? It hurt when he forgot me, and I wouldn't want to hurt him in the same way, but at the same time I don't think it will, since he has many many friends. If this is a social hint of sorts I should understand, I would sure appreciate some feedback on this matter.

How you act depends on what kind of person you want to be.

Do you want to be the kind of considerate person who remembers friends' birthdays? If so, then go ahead.

I admire people like that, but not everyone remembers birthdays well. He probably just forgot and I'm pretty sure it's not a social signal.

be the bigger person. remember his birthday.

Hmm. Funny you should mention FB. FB automatically reminds it's members when someone from their network has a birthday coming up. They do it right on FB or to your email. This person would've been reminded - unless he closed his FB account like I did. If he really did know when your birthday was, but chose to ignore it, I say forget about him. Obviously you weren't that important in his eyes.

That's like saying,

"Someone accidentally stood on my foot, should I kick him?"

There are many reasons why he might have forgot; give the benefit of the doubt.

It was my birthday a while back and one friend didn't tell me happy birthday. I looked at his facebook page and realized I forgot his birthday that was a few weeks before mine! I didn't even realize it.

Moral of the story: we're all imperfect.

If he didn't log onto facebook that day, or checked his email that week, he wouldn't have gotten that automatic reminder, thats true.

I don't really see the "got stepped on foot, kick?"-analogy. Wouldn't "got stepped on foot, cut off own leg?"-be more accurate?

Thanks for the feedback. I will give him the benefit of the doubt then, and text/fb him on the big day.

The reason I asked, is because I've experienced first hand how some relatives have used that method to get a point across. But I realize now that it has made me extra sensitive to that matter, and therefore also perhaps read too much into it when others do/don't do it.

Yup, it's better to be the bigger man. If he forgot it by mistake, he'll be happy and you win. If he forgot it on purpose, he'll feel bad about it. Win!

Today, it turned out I had forgotten a friend's birthday. Thankfully, most of his other friends had also forgotten about it, and he only found out it was his birthday when he found birthday cards when coming downstairs that morning. I dodged a bullet there.

Yes, be the bigger man. It can happen to anyone and everyone, even the person himself.

its just a birthday.

i'm glad no one remembers my birthday, bc then I might feel like I have to remember theirs and I have enough to worry about already without having to remember to congratulate someone else for existing.

good ridance to birthdays.

Just so you know, FB informs you SEVERAL days before your contact's birthday, not on just the actual day. They had PLENTY of warning.