Looking for deep conversation and new friend's my age!

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I'd really like to A) meet some Aspie females, not in the sexual sense it's just generally nice to have a female perspective on situations! B) Meet some friend's my own age and C) meet some male friend's too, at the minute I've kind of cut myself off from social circles as two of my main friend's have been constantly treating me like crap and really not giving me the respect I deserve, while taking huge advantage of my kind nature... I don't like this and I know this is online but I really am in dire need of some actual conversation and friendship!

I'm hugely into walking, reading, physics, astrology, astronomy, drums and all thing's music! Any other drummers out there =]?

I hope you don't mind a suggestion. One thing I learned by experience, even before I ever figured out I had AS, was that it is easier to make online friends in communities based on your interests. You still have to be careful, because you are venturing out among the aliens on the planet you've gotten stuck on but if you stick mostly to the topic everybody is interested in and let people slowly get to know you, it can work out okay.

Sometimes, it will blow up in your face. Mostly if you care deeply about something and the rest of the people you thought were friends don't give a fig for it. (Long story; I won't go into it here.)

But the one thing that jumped out at me, since it's something I know a bit about, is reading. If you like to read, pick a site - LibraryThing comes to mind, since I just joined not long ago - and look for people who like to read the same stuff you do.

Music, I can't help you with so much. I like music, but I'm horrible at it. (There's actually an AS explanation for that, but I won't bore you with it - and I know we're "supposed" to be good at music. In effect, I think what keeps a lot of us from learning to talk kept me from learning music. That's vastly oversimplified, but you get the basic idea.) So I can't suggest any sites, but I'm sure there are forums for drummers out there. If you can gain some respect for the things people in that community like, by the time they figure out you're not like them, some of them won't care. (Of course, some will. to them.)