The Gray Line.

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You know what I'm talking about?


Finding the thin line between 'Wow, that guy was so rude, what's his problem?" and "What a creepy stalker"


It's so hard because I'm still trying to figure out how much space is necessary, so I don't come off as stalker-ish, but then I"m faced with the other side of the coin.

Even though we don't pick up on regular social cues, people are going to make all kinds of assumptions about other people who appear to be off due to a superficial culture standard

I'd say lean towards the former.

The thing is, the 'line' is in a different place for every NT, as well. Further, even NTs who are blinded by their need for someone sometimes cross the 'line' as well.

I guess what I'm saying is that you have to do two things: (1) find something else to focus on from time to time, so that you can retain perspective, and (2) even though it's ridiculously hard, try, occasionally, to intuit what the other individual's point of view is, AS AN INDIVIDUAL.

It's definitely important to know that balance.

Keep in mind that it is best to let the person get to know you gradually. So for the first few weeks you keep in touch with them, you shouldn't contact them every day. Maybe contact them every couple of days instead (that way they can't think you are creepy or stalkerish).