RedMage wants friends

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I want friends! But I don't know how to make 'em...

I don't go to high school now, so I'm never around people my age.

Does anyone know what this Red Mage should do to make friends?

Well, first of all, stand back, observe. See who's the idiots, who's smart, who's nice, who's mean.

LEt's say hypothetically that there's some mean insulting ugly idiot. Stay away from them, do not antagonize. Just stay away.

PErson's good, be nice, be generous. Do a favor or two, and TELL THEM that you're autistic! If they can't tolerate that they aren't a friend.

Red Mage.

May this one ask why ye are not in High School?

First thing you need to realize is that you (or anyone) will probably have to meet a LOT of people before you find someone who can really be your friend. Even before you make that friend there will probably be a good number of people who you can put in a "friend candidate" category. Once that's done you can move on to the "just how close is this friend" thing...

What I'm trying to get at is that this will probably not be a very fast process. Maybe months or a year before you find someone you can really talk to and be "friends" with.

So let's start with the first step: how often are you meeting new people and how reguarly do you see them?

To use an example: one of the most successful guys I met with women wasn't a handsome man. He was masculine but not "hot". Once I got to know him better I found out that there was no real "secret" to his success. This guy worked the "find and date girls" thing like it was a part time job. Seriously, he was out 3 - 4 hours a night for 6 days a week.

That may be way to extreme for you to do but it does tell us something important: there is no "magick bullet" and the answer to social problems isn't hidden: it just takes a lot of Hard Work.

This is the second time you've written a thread with this topic!

I'm not sure what makes you think you don't have friends now!