What are the signs that people no longer like you?

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Interested in your personal take on this, if you have experienced rejection from either one person or a group of people, and specifically what were the first signs that you noticed? How did it progress?


(kind of posting a lot right now which is not normally the case but feeling some pretty severe emotional distress right now )

What you wrote in your other post is correct. No longer initiating conversations or making eye contact is a sign that someone either no longer likes you or is upset with you for some reason. When you first notice a sign like this you could ask if they are upset with you or if you have done something wrong. The sooner you do this after noticing a problem the better the chances of repairing the relationship, although sometimes there is nothing you can do once the damage is done.

-they ignore you
-they ignore your texts and calls
-they always come off as sarcastic
-they have a certain look on their face when you speak to them (smirk, sarcastic, mad, etc.)

Thank you both for the feedback. It is a comfort to hear from a human being, as i feel completely abandoned in the real world

Honestly, all the behaviors associated with someone not liking you are what I see in everyone, so it's not always easy to determine if someone doesn't like me. Personally, I tend to believe they're all "faking it" (even those who consider themselves friends) for some reason or another (getting me to work on their projects/reports). They may very well like me, but I always have my doubts... It's not like I care one way or another.

From personal experience, they're very condescending. They're usually rather rude and cold; they intentionally say things to hurt your feelings a lot of the time. If they're not bold like that kind of person, they'll just stop talking to you, avoid contact, and ignore you altogether.

When they throw rocks at you.

-no longer saying "hi" to you when they use to greet you every day
-deleting comments you make on facebook for no reason
-Simple or one word replies to things you tell them that wouldn't normally illicit such a response.
Example: "My grandma is dying.."
"Sucks."
-person making rants or complaints about a "type" of person that grinds their gears and you realize over half the stuff applies to you

I do these things when I no longer like a person

never having time to chat on the phone or get together. always polite, but never available.

They're always "busy" so they don't answer your emails or IMs or calls nor return your calls
Delete you off Facebook friends
They make fun of you or have a negative attitude towards you
They ignore you act like you don't exist but yet pay attention to other people
They have negative opinions about you
They are not nice to you

Yes, mostly people just don't have much contact with you, don't initiate it, etc., it's a sign that they are not particularly interested in spending time with you. But they can do that for more reasons than just not liking you. Sometimes people do it because they don't have much in common with you, and so don't find your company to be particularly interesting. Sometimes it's because they feel closer to other people than to you. Sometimes it's because you've misjudged the relationship as being closer than it actually is--they see you as only an acquaintance. Sometimes it's done by introverts who feel smothered by someone who's offering more social contact than they can tolerate. Sometimes it's got to do with a new romance or a newfound group of friends that they relate to better than to you. So it doesn't have to be that they don't like you; it can be done for any number of reasons.

But if this is another Aspie or someone else with poor social skills and/or extreme introversion, be aware that they might not actually wish to distance themselves from you. They might have trouble initiating contact, be stressed out by contact that's too frequent, or need very little contact to begin with. In that case, assume that maybe they want to hang out with you--just not so often as before.

[Moved from General Autism Discussion to Social Skills and Making Friends]

I know that this girl at school didn't like me much for some reason, though she used to sit at my lunch table and would talk and laugh with me and my friends. I noticed that she began to stop speaking to me, and if I spoke to her, she would give really short answers in a quiet-ish low tone.