How to react around other non-autistic people...

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27 Jul 2012, 9:12 pm

All throughout my schooling, from kindergarten all the way to 12th grade, I had trouble making friends. As a child, I got absorbed in certain topics and activities. From unnecessary psychiatric hospitalizations to juvenile detention to obsession in the American Civil War, my life was total HELL!! !! !! !! I scared people when I would pretend to fix a bayonet to a rifle. I would play with sticks, pretending they're rifles with fixed bayonets to them. I would be obsessed with guns and killing, pretending I was in battle, pretending I am shooting at a Union soldier. As I advanced to the next grade level, I would start to tell fibs and tales like the boy who cried wolf. For example, my parents have co-guardianship of me because I told several lies to school and mental health authority figures. I even have trouble interacting with the female race, let alone my female cousins and my dad's 5 sisters on his side of the family. I would be butting into their personal lives, condemning them to have their own families just because I'm jealous because I don't have a girlfriend. I would be calling his nieces skanks, whores, and sluts, let alone my dad's youngest sister.
I have 0 friends on my facebook, on my deviantArt, and on my MeetMe (formerly MyYearbook) profiles, and I try to befriend new people without being sexually inappropriate by making inappropriate remarks or asking personal questions that they feel uncomfortable answering or asking for personal information like their phone numbers, addresses, or email addresses.
Could I get some advice on how it's possible to make friends without being or acting inappropriate in social settings?


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27 Jul 2012, 10:57 pm

I would start with addressing why there is a need to be inappropriate with others. By that I mean, since being inappropriate doesn't work, why do you feel the need to interact in those ways? As you go from there, it will be easier to address what you need to change. You could also ask yourself what is meant or implied by what other people say