The difference between being mean and inconsiderate

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Summer_Twilight
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03 Jul 2012, 8:38 am

Hi, like all of us in her, we can agree that we have trouble reading different social cues. So I would like to ask this question and not that anyone has done anything lately, what do you define as "Being Mean," to "Being Inconsiderate or clueless?"



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03 Jul 2012, 10:47 am

being inconsiderate is when you just don't put enough thought into how your actions might affect someone.

being mean is hurting someone on purpose.

being clueless is even less of an infraction than being inconsiderate, because one can try very hard to be kind and still miss the boat through no fault of their own. i can't guarantee it will always be seen this way, though.



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03 Jul 2012, 11:17 am

I can be quite clueless of deciding whether being mean is inconsiderate, or even clueless.



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03 Jul 2012, 12:50 pm

Actually, what is a social cue?



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03 Jul 2012, 1:07 pm

Being mean requires malice whereas inconsiderate is just absent mindedness.



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03 Jul 2012, 11:18 pm

redrobin62 wrote:
Actually, what is a social cue?



Where you read the difference in ones own actions, words, and pitch