bursting peoples' bubbles, and my own

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You have a situation where other people are being very serious about something or about life and since you are already a total outsider to the entire universe, you sometimes get into the "all the world's a play" sort of feeling and everyone looks ridiculous. You just want to survive and read about whatever you want to and play games with your pets and enjoy some lemonade. At the same time, you recognize you are harboring some kind of extremely intense resentment, have not dealt with a lot of bad crap in your life, and that this "silly world, tricks are for kids" sort of thinking is really just your coping mechanism for that. But you can't tell anyone that and hardly want to admit it to yourself. But your objections to the seriousness are founded and you could burst their bubbles if you wanted to and force them to deal with what you've had to deal with...everything you try to do being made into a joke, laughed at, or simply unrecognized, or seeming to be a trifle in comparison to the bad stuff you've experienced. Now, sometimes we can burst each others' bubbles just to lighten the mood and get people to laugh and that brings us closer together a little: laughing together. But sometimes, trying to burst peoples' bubbles might be taken negatively, as an insult to their work, and they basically look at you thinking, "grow the f up."

But I'm wondering how one can tell whether a certain situation is one where reminding people how silly they are will make them laugh, or whether its one where trying to do this would piss people off. It might be the most controversial type of humor, and I bet that people who (attempt to) use it get fired from their jobs a lot.

Of course, this is mostly hypothetical. I barely speak in real life. My entire existence is kind of a joke, and that sounds pretty bad, but at the moment I must be joking, because I'm sort of chuckling as I type. But I can't really tell. Typical villain.

Any suggestions for how to sabotage my own sabotage?

I'd strongly suggest not trying to burst people's bubbles by putting your woes out there as some kind of counter balance to a topic. Life can be hard and troubled for lots of people, even those without autism. You just can't tell how difficult life is for other people and they might well trump you and say "Well, if you think autism is bad, you want to try living with...". There's always someone who has it worse than you.



I don't think your existence is a joke.



The next time you find yourself thinking about how you could burst someone's bubble, maybe just acknowledge to yourself that while you don't put any stock in the seriousness of their discussion, it might be important to them and it just wouldn't help anybody to interject your angst to demonstrate how inane their line of conversation is.

That can happen even when you've had to deal with a lot of bad crap ... it can come out as black humour, for instance. Which can get you into all sorts of trouble.