Did I do the right thing?/How to find like minded people

Post Reply New Topic

Hello,

I have been real pissed off lately. The town I live in is around 12,000 , and after 4 years of living here, I am getting really bored. for the past two years I have been walking, which is still fun, but now is getting bored since I have explored everything (and I mean EVERYTHING, even those that shouldn't be ). So I tried putting up an event for two groups on facebook, an no one has replied
. So I try to take things into my own hands, and this is what I get? But anyways. I tired joining the Youth Volunteer Corp., but the guy who runs it could not get off his ass to help. I finally said forget it. Which brings me to the next problem. I joined a youth group, and I felt like crap. So I jumped ship and not long after that it quit meeting. So I went to another one.


And I have been going here for two years. At first I felt a lot better, but then for the past 6 months I have felt crappy again. It just seems like certain caliber of people show up, and I don't like it. It seems like they are either arrogant or complete idiots. Also, I have tried to talk with the youth pastor about my condition, and it seems like he glossed over it. Also, it seems like he does not understand, in a jock type way. He may wish me the best, but nothing is ever accomplished. And it seems like that the Church should be a place of refuge, not a place to feel terrible (not from the message, but from the environment). Anyways, the only reason I continue to go is for guitar lessons, but now the guy who taught it quit. So I felt crappy tonight, on top of him quit, so I decided to quit. I just got tired of not meshing and so yeah. Do you think I did the right thing? I did not want to jump the gun, but I am fed up, so yeah.


My second part of the question is what can I do to find like minded people? I have tried to step out, but it seems like the door keeps locking itself. What can I do? What are some ideas for finding people? College is the only thing I can thing of (which I am doing). Any ideas for finding people in a small town?

Unfortunately, the small town you live in may not be the best place to look if you've gone through the available options there. Perhaps you should expand your boundaries to the city your college is in. I'm sure there are many clubs and groups that do on there.

If it's any help I think you did the rite thing since you tried your best & it wasn't benefiting you & only making you feel bad. Unfortunately lots of us here including me have major problems socializing & meeting people offline just may not work for you or your area. Lots of us are better at meeting people online. Maybe you can make some online friends & maybe meet up offline after a while. I'm really sorry I cant think of anything more helpful to say rite now.

I appreciate all the responses. Sometimes it is hard to say in the end, you did all you can do. Sometimes you just got to let things go, and in this case, I have done all that I can do (to my knowledge). Thanks.

Can you consider finding a job near/in the city and moving out?