"Social apex"...

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Have any of you ever experienced a time in your lives when you became inexplicably oriented towards the social circuit and making friends, etc.? It might have been any measure of time from a few months to a couple of years. I went through this sort of phase in my own life, and because I was more adept at social interactions at this time than any other time, I refer to it as my "social apex". Speaking to an autistic friend of mine I discovered that she too experienced a social apex, culminating in musing over whether or not this inclination is consistent in all people that have been diagnosed with autism.

Have any of you experienced a social apex in your lives?

Yes, twice. The first time, I managed to be a member of a group, but was extremely shy and didn't say much. The second time, I joined a social group and became an actual social member of the group.

I go through phases when I really want to make friends and find a girlfriend, so I try to work harder at socializing, but then after a while it stresses me out or I become tired and I go back to wanting to be a hermit.

Yeah, when I was around 18-20 and hanging out at my favourite alternative/metal clubs twice a week. I made lots of friends at the clubs and hung out with some of them outside the clubs as well. When I grew out of this sort of activity, my social life went back to being pretty bland. I attribute my ability to make friends at this time to both being surrounded by people who I felt more comfortable around than anyone I went to high school with, and the presence of alcohol a lot of the time.

This sounds a lot like me, and it looks like there is definitely a consistency. Thank you for your feedback!