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Hello. I'm working for my school over summer. There is another girl studying the same subject as me, but she has just finished her undergraduate degree. She wnated to stay on to do a MA but she messed up her exams and so didn't get the 1:1 that she needed. She seems so intelligent, and she is so nice. Anyway, the other people with our job all think she should contest it but she does not have that confidence. Anyway, when I met her at lunch the other day, she was just leaving and she said if I needed any advice or recommendations or etc etc then she'd be prepared to give it (as she was leaving). I thought that would be super useful, because I haven't read much from the area I'm now to study. Also, I just thought she seemed like such a nice person so I wanted to talk to her because we don't get to talk much on the job (because everyone is working in different spots). Anyway, I sent her an e-mail saying I thought it would be cool if she wouldn't mind giving her perspective on the subject if she was free some time, --->

was that bad?? I know it seems paranoid but I sent that last night and she hasn't replied, and I'm kind of worried now that I've slept on it that it was an awkward thing to do?? Because if she doesn't reply I'll have to face her in work!! Should I be embarrassed about the e-mail? I just said if she didn't mind and if she were free some time I'd really like to hear what she had to say about the 2nd year, if she had any recommendations etc. BUT I also added in a PS that I thought she should contest the issue with the MA if she had the opportunity because it sounded like her tutors would probably support her / there might be some leniency --> I'm worried this must seem really presumptious?? It's just that when I was talking to her, she said there was absolutely no chance of her getting on without a 1:1 and that she was a failure / that she'd been suffering from depression since then, but the others all said if she pushed a little there might be some leniency. I think I apologised in the PS but I don't know ... I think I might have messed up with that considering she is older (I've only just finished my first-year) and so much more intelligent than me, do you think this was a really idiotic e-mail?? Would it offend her?? I also think I asked what article she was writing in the e-mail. Anyway I think it's going to be awkward if she doesn't reply but I guess I would just act like it's no big deal (it kind of isn't because I know she's really nice and it's probably just because it was a moronic e-mail)? I've never tried to start a friendship or ask other people to hang out so this is kind of like, one of my pitiful first attempts. Please just let me know how moronic it sounds and what should I do. Should I just leave that e-mail even if she doesn't reply, or send another e-mail to apologise and to withdraw the presumptiousness of the PS??

Don't send another email. That one sounds fine. Some people don't check their emails every day, or reply straight away. She might be waiting to respond in person.

ya she might be not checking mails daily
or she might be replying personally

i remember once i replied on Facebook to my colleague in inbox
but she didn't reply to me for many days
and one day she just caught up with me in pantry when i was washing the plate
she replied to the message verbally by putting me down for the reply i had written

so yes we do get nasty messages.