Over-sensitive

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I'm very sensitive. Sometimes my "friends" pretend they have fallen out with me or that they have a problem then refuse to talk to me. Then afterwards they're all like "I was only joking, chill out!"

I don't understand this at all. Anyone else have the same problem? What would you do?

I just simply shut up and walk away when someone is trying to joke around with me, I did that today. For the most part I can take a joke, but sometimes I am just not into it. If someone has pretended to have had a falling out with me, I would say to them "I don't find that funny at all."

Yes I cannot stand this kind of joking. I don't usually stay friends with people that have that kind of a sense of humour.

I'm all right with jokes because I can usually tell when people are joking around and wanting me to laugh with them. But there are some things that I get too sensitive about, and I can't help it. It's just the way I am. I'm not the sort to say ''oh they're not worth my time'' or, ''oh I'm too good for them''. I just find it so hard to just tell myself that, because I know that I have AS and I know the AS does make me a target so sometimes it's a no wonder that people can't accept me for who I am and so decide to belittle me instead. It's not very nice of them to hurt someone's feelings like that, and I can't seem to understand it when people say NTs have empathy for other people's feelings, but there you go, it's just another injustice and I've just got to live with it and put up with being laughed at, whether I conform or not.

Still hurts on the inside though.

i am extremely sensitive too...

Having AS should not make you a target. I figure that a proper friend that likes (or loves) and cares about you would never purposely be cruel to you. If you were my friend I'd accept you for who you are, just as I do any NT, and would never purposely belittle you, but that's because I'm essentially a good person. If someone is treating you in a way that hurts you, then I'd be inclined to consider if that relationship was worth having. You need to find good people, Joe90; you deserve it.

Well I do but the thing is I have random strangers on the street making me feel like a target, by laughing at me, belitting me, humiliating me, staring at me, and all those other things that I consider a form of schoolyard bullying that I would have thought adults would grow out of. Well, men do, but women don't. It's not that I even look different or appear unusual in any way that encourages negative attention because I know I don't, which makes the uncontrollable situation even more hurtful and also very unsettling.

I thought the idea of a joke was there had to be even the slightest hint of humor present. I'm not sure why anyone would find that funny, I would also consider it sincere if they went as far as refusing to talk to me. I wouldn't respond to it and if they ask why you haven't spoke to them, simply point out they were the one's that didn't want to talk to you. Then if they pursuit claims of it being a "joke" explain why it isn't funny at all.

Glad other people find this kind of "humour" totally unfunny as well...guess I will try and grow some balls and tell my "friends" what the deal is.

It takes great courage to stand up to your enemies, but even greater courage to stand up to you friends. Did Dumbledore say that?

Get a dog (or better yet a bird) birds have all the radness of a dog with out the stinky dog smell.

I also don't enjoy that kind of humour.

I have the same problem. It is hard enough for me to read people when they are not trying to fool me this way. When they do, I usually try to ascertain what is wrong and if I can't then I will accept it and walk away. This is not the expected reaction but it is the only thing that is logical to me to do.