A little puzzled about this?

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I have known this hairdresser now for about 6 years. the last 2 times i have had my haircut by her she has been giving me a bit of the cold shoulder. i don't really think its her going through depression or anything since she is friendly too other clients that get there haircut by her. Earlier this year she was really nice, chatty, talkitive and friendly but at the moment she barely talks too me when i m having my haircut by her. i felt in a good mood last time i had my haircut by her but she was still not too friendly too me.

granted someone in her hairdressing buissness has died recently but still..... do you think perhaps i put too much emphasis in the conversations we had together in the past? I have made similar mistakes (mentioned in past threads) with gym instructors as well.

I mentioned this too my dad and he said too me "maybe she thinks your threating?" he could have a piont becuase maybe i put on that type of overly smiley friendly persona which might come across as 'friendly but threating'.

what is your take on this?

It's her job to be friendly to customers, so perhaps she is putting on an act with the other customers? Since she is more familiar with you, she may feel more comfortable letting her guard down.

maybe she feels more relaxed around me possibly?

I've "messed up" when around people too-people I liked that I beat myself up about for "failing" to get them to want to be friends with me.

It sounds like she either feels comfortable around you, or is uncomfortable around you alternatively.

I don't know, try talking to her again and see how she reacts.

It always puzzles me, I mean, thoroughly perplexes me, why some people just stop talking to you out of the blue. It's really bizarre. One day they're your friend, they next it's like they wish they'd never met you. I can only chalk this up to my aspieness, I guess. Maybe they were giving out signs they no longer wished to be your friend, for whatever reason, but those hints were missed. I know specifically why my 10th grade friend ignored me in 11th and 12th grade. I never made a pass at him, but he did start listening to his other friends that gay rumors were swirling and he'd best break off all ties with me. Most of the time, though, I'm completely blind to a reason. It's actually do the point, though, where I don't even bother making friends anymore because they'll just become the judge of me and abandon me anyway.