Making conversation with people you see daily

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Hey, I am looking for a bit of advice! I've become moderately good at making conversation with people I don't see very often, but I have a lot of difficulty keeping a conversation going with people I see daily. For example, people I work next to, sit next to in classes, or carpool with to work. Basically, we know most things about each other, so really the only new conversation topics I can ever think of are what we did the previous night (usually not too exciting aside from weekends lol), and maybe a news story or two. Does anyone have any suggestions? Thanks!

I bring up topics about their favorite food or favorite TV show if they watch TV. Ask them what kind of coffee they drink or if they like coffee - and if so then where do they usually get coffee, and maybe get coffee!

Maybe you could subscribe to some sort of daily email subscription that would give you a heads up each day on a subject that you could feel comfortabe bringing up- maybe something with your special interest.

I know there are daily emails about jokes, horoscopes, a word a day (vocabulary type word), but it would depend on what you are comfortable bringing up. That way you could have a back up plan to fill those silences.

Other than that, I find that it is usually good enough to say, "How was your day?" and then they can talk because it is rather open ended. Sadly, I learned this from a three year old who had learned to say it, and it showed me that it is an appropriate question to ask almost anyone, regardless of age and the situation.

Then when they answer, if you listen to what they are saying you can find something in there to continue discussing. That works for me alot better than not listening because I am worrying about what I could say next.