Not talking to friends...

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This may be a bit of a rant, I'm sorry. I try really hard to be social and live up to NT's exceptions. I'm not really a social butterfly and go out of my way more than I would like, to be social and have contact with people. Yesterday I was out with my Mam, we saw some friends, she chatted to them briefly, I didn't/couldn't say anything to them, I was far too stressed out and tired after a bad few days. Today my Mam told me I'd upset them by not saying anything and all I had to do was say hello and I need to work on my social skills ect. I try really hard with these people for so long and then I slip up for one day and I've upset them?! People just don't understand I cannot be the perfect NT everyday when I'm not NT. I'm really upset and annoyed this has happened and I don't know what to do about it.

Why would you want to live up to NT's expectations? You are who you are, and you have to live your life in a way that satisfies your needs, not those of other people, may they be NT or whatever. Do you think they would change their personality or normal behavior in order to meet your standards?

A good idea in these situations might be to say hello and then if they ask how your feeling, just say something to the effect of "I'm not feeling to good today, would you excuse me?" and go and sit down.

Most people will understand. It's just a matter of acknowledging them. I'm sure we've all been in situations where we just want to be acknowledged.

Thanks for the advice guys. I'll don't know if I can approach the subject with my Mam but maybe I'll try talking to my therapist. As for why she was telling me the news it's because my friends mother is my mothers best friend so they are always talking to each other.