How could i work towards this?

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In the last 4 years my friends have not been as nice too me as they used too.

i am now 22 years old and are there any tips on how i could work on being a better friend so i can earn back there respect that i used too have? This really is a task i would like too undertake so i will get more oppurtunities too do things with my buddies.

I have no ideas.

but this planet has over 7,000,000,000 other potential friends for you.


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OP, you'll have to realize you're growing apart from them. If you don't feel any different, then perhaps they're growing apart from you. For the past 4 years, since you've been out of high school, this has been happening. They're progressing, as NTs naturally do, almost like they're automated to do so, and they see you're out-of-step.

I know it's hard, the fact that you still have your high school friends shows how hard it is for you to make new friends. Ideally, everything would be wonderful between you and them as it once was.

In reality, this isn't going to happen. It's over, things have changed, and you can't undo them. You have to choices: become the outcast tag-along friend who they no longer respect, or realize it's over and cut them loose, or at the very least keep them at arm's length.

its hard too let them go since i have know most of my friends for 10 years now.

You should be direct and ask them why they are treating you this way. If they don't respond or respond in a way that doesn't seem to respect the way you are, then you'll need to move on and find some new friends. I know it can be hard, but if they are weighing you down, it's worth a try.

People change, NT or AS.

Unfortunately sometimes they grow apart.

What specifically have they been doing to you? Teasing you? About what? Not inviting you to what?