How to help a friend through a tough time?

Post Reply New Topic

My one friend who still lives near me is going through a rough time. Her mom was diagnosed with breast cancer, and I want to be there for her because she is an amazing person and has been there for me through many of my bad spells including when my mom had cancer. I've known her for almost 10 years now, but she has always been the caring one who looked out for me. Does anyone have any advice on how to help a friend go through a hard time in their life? I don't know what the right thing to do is, and I don't want her to think I don't care, because I do, I just suck at showing it.

do her dishes and laundry and bring her dinner.

I agree with Merculangelo. Also, walk the dog, tend the garden, etc.

Thanks, that's good advice. I've been working on my casserole making skills.
I just wish I could be the sort of person she could lean on for emotional support, but I guess I should just accept that I'm never going to be that person and focus on other ways I can help.

When I'm worried or stressed, just the fact that someone is cheering me on from the side lines will brighten my day. Sometimes when I'm feeling a bit low, my friend who has Aspeger's will "poke" me on Facebook and it'll make a little bit happier. Just something such as letting someone know you are thinking and concerned about them can make a big difference.