Do people do this to you?

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Ok say you and 2 other people are talking, and one person asks the OTHER person something about YOU.

Even though you're like RIGHT THERE!! !

People do that to me all the time! even people that just meet me or dont know me too well!

Why can't they just ask me and not the person next to me??

Are people that afraid of me?-_-

i dont know if people do that to me but ive seen people doing that to others. by my guess is that they want information from someone else than the person there.

i dont know what to say more than that. cos i know it does not make sense.

Other people may see you differently than you see yourself.

Maybe they don't think you are paying attention to the conversation??

I'm IN the conversation!

or they will ask a question about me while I'm right in front of them and the other person can't answer so then I end up answering in a sarcastic tone... I feel like a kid.

are they people from your family?

Everyone does it to me. My family, friends, people I just meet. Even kids

probably because they feel they cant ask this to you. because they dont know if you will take it or not. but i think the best thing you could do is ask them.

I just never understood it... I feel like they're intimidated to ask me.

yeah i hear you.

but really, the best thing is to ask why they do that to you.

its a probability that they might be not at ease cos they know your difference and everything. but by asking them you will know why they do it and you will be able to make them more at ease after by explaining what their behavior makes you feel like and everything. They will understand that its not the proper thing to do to you.

Yeah maybe I should ask the person that they asked why they're asking them and not me lol

I just find it strange that the people who don't know me do it to me even.

I know what you mean people do that to me too, or if I'm talking to someone and someone else comes up and they continue the conversation and ignore me.

I have people do that to me all the time. Once somebody went to ask me something, then looked at my mum and then asked the question. That made me feel ret*d, as though I couldn't talk or understand a genuine question. I may look shy or stupid but people know I'm NOT shy or stupid, so I don't know why they do it for.

Not really but it happens sometimes if I'm with my parents, it's like I'm a little kid but it's probably because I come off as really shy around strangers.

This used to happen to me all the time up until a few years ago when I developed my social skills/confidence a bit more. I see this happen quite a lot with parents of other aspies: even when they are there, they take over and do all the talking because they don't have the patience for their slower processing, slower output, or ideas that don't match up to theirs. It's frustrating and unfair to the person just standing there...and it's why I always directly involve the person on the spectrum in conversations like this whenever I can.