Wanting to say something

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Has anyone ever wanted to talk to someone but just for some reason didnt say anything at all? NOT just because of Anxiety either.....? Just didnt talk to the person, and wound up getting mad at yourself for not talking to that person?

so, for example, you could only call them but your phone was dead? or the person is deaf and you don't know sign language and forget you could write on paper?

Like you want to say something to someone, but you know from past experiences that when you talk the other person wont hear you, or you go up to them and forget what your going to say, or when you go up to that person someone else gets there attention first. Or you want to talk to them but for some other reason just cant, and then wind up getting mad at yourself for not saying something to someone?

Well that's typical for me as well but in a different sense.
I use to talk to whatever persons, just whatever.

I make sometimes even something like a plan

And then afterwards I think why am I so stupid?

Was it that what you were after??

Well we are strange and there is not so much you can do about it, unfortunately. You can play the game to some extend but still others realise that you are strange.
And that prevents you a lot to get in contact with others
and it also prevents you to say things
that you wanted to
(I am too slow in thinking for example and come to a conclusion when the others already have moved on to other)

Maybe that fits more with that what you were talking about

But trying hard and honestly developing yourself a coping strategy
is the only real weapon you could develop

apart from getting rid of all unnecessary anxiety,
which is even more important because that amplifies
your strangeness quite a bit (if you are not doing well)

Yes, I sure have

Same thing.

I get really quiet when I'm tired. Sometimes I know I should say something but I just can't really bring myself to do it.

It happens ALL THE TIME; it also happened at my recent ASD assessment.

Often I do this as I'm anxious as to how the other person will react, so I either delay things, or in many cases, not bring them up at all.

I have the same situation too, definitely not due to anxiety. When I want to describe a story or experience, I tend to forget the name of place/people and forget the correct time and place. I would usually avoid this situation by telling a simple plot, which ultimately my friends would feel very awkward. They would think, well....... you have beginning and ending, but where's the content of story?

Or, there is occasionally, I forget an artist name, but I know that artist. I would take it so long to recall the name. It would take like... 30 min or 1 hour.

My brain seems not stickness to any daily routine facts.

I dont why, and always thought I am stupid. However, after I read a book call "Field Guide to Earthlings", I know it's because the majority just think in words all the time so that they can speak quickly directly from any thing in their brain. For me, I have concepts in my mind only, and I need to somewhat "reconcile" or "synchronise" my thoughts into words before I speak. I guess that's why I can't say things well.

Sorry dudes, I go too scientific.

Ok I have thought of a better way to state what this feeling is like... Have you ever noticed in anime, when someone wants to say something to someone, doesnt and they show the other person walking away like in a hall or something?(its usually a grey hall, and the otehr person is moving/walking down the hall, while the other person is stopped). Its almost like they wanted to catch up with them? Does that make sense?

this happens all the time. like I will know what I want to say but cant form the words.

this happens to me alot and i only realy realise when its too late then that person has gone and then it makes you feel bad

this happens to me a lot too.