Do you consider yourself friendly?

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For me, I'd say I can be extremely friendly when I actually start a conversation going.
I wondered what everyone else thought of themselves in terms of being friendly.

I am friendly to most people who a friendly to me first and who also remain friendly toward me thereafter.

Where I live, I'm expected to know just about everyone. But I have enormous difficulties recognizing most people here. So I try to act friendly to everyone in case I know them.

I'm friendly with anyone really. Usually those efforts are wasted so I don't know why I bother to be honest.

I'm friendly but I'm not demonstrative and I almost never initiate contact.

I think most people with Asperger's are basically friendly, but are considered strange so it's wasted effort.

I think I'm friendly....unless you give me very good reason not to be.

I consider myself friendly 75% of the time. The other 25% is usually the bland and emotionless like state I get in.

I may appear to be friendly to most people but they really don't know how must hostility and anger I have boiling underneath. And if some of that comes to the surface it's surprising they usually still do afterwards. I often act cold toward people who are "professionals" in mental health. Once when I was in the mental ward once again because of my constant meltdowns one of the staff came in and noticed I was sketching cartoons and said he could not understand how someone like me could even be capable of creating drawings and characters full of love and happiness and intelligence.

I'd have told then to f-k off! What a nasty thing to say! I have a theory that some of the nastiest people go into the mental health field. There are one or two decent people but you don't come across many that's for sure. They are either arrogant idiots who know far less than they think or nasty and brutish - they would have been exactly the type to volunteer as concentration camp guards as they love having control over others and either actively enjoy seeing others suffer or don't care one iota what happens to them. I think they could do a lot worse than test the mental health and intelligence levels of the mental health workers - I bet you'd find a lot of sociopaths in there and IQ level would be woeful!

Yeah, but I've got a mean streak too.

I selected the last one. It's not that I'm unfriendly at all. It's just that I'm shy, and prefer to keep myself to myself, it's nothing personal against anybody. Obviously if somebody went out of their way to make small talk with me, I will smile and reply back, even if I'm in a bad mood.

I've been getting my bus for about 6 years now, and I recognise very familiar faces of the other regular passengers who have always got the bus too, bus I don't really say hello to them, where as others probably would if they recognise familiar people. But then again, I do seem to know more people around the bigger town where I go on the bus to, than the local town where I live and grew up in! So maybe I make friends without realising it, I don't know.

I don't expend energy on being friendly unless I'm sure of a good return as I've had too many people take advantage of my good nature. People often make me feel they think I'm not good enough for them and I can sense this at 50 paces and it is another major reason for not bothering with people - their sheer arrogance.

People who are always getting friendliness off others from the outset are not really being tested re their own friendliness - they should try being friendly in the face of outright unfriendliness - that's the true test of character and I'd put money on them not being nearly so friendly if they were getting little to no feedback to their own friendliness.

It depends how important it is for me to make a good impression on another person as to how far I will tolerate unfriendly behaviour off them but generally if a person is unfriendly I never want to have to interact with them again and like it if our paths cross at a later date when I am in a stronger position or if they need something off me.

Jesus wouldn't be very happy about my mindset lol

I answered no, but ... define friendly. I'm polite and pleasant to people I interact with, for the most part. But I don't go out of my way to seek people out, I'm not very social, and I am not actively trying to make friends. I like people in general, though individually they can be totally frustrating. They also exhaust me, so I tend to avoid situations where I have to deal with people much. I don't consider myself very friendly, although most people I meet have no problem with me, and some may even consider me friendly in a quiet, reserved way.

My nickname isn't the Friendly Giant for nothing.

Very true. I just dont bother myself at all anymore to be friendly.