meeting new people and not sure if I am acting right?!

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Hello,

So I have been told before that I am odd, seem autistic and also that I don't interact properly with people (by acquaintences and employers) which was a tad embarrassing.
I think I am getting a bit better over the years but I still see awkward smiles between groups of friends when I talk and this really gets me down. I have been told by some people sometimes I come on too strong others say I appear cold, distant and aloof and some say I am really cool. It's all so confusing...... (plus I always fidget and have constant energy like I am running on a motor so I can't sit and talk for too long anyway)

I have just started university and there are plenty of social gatherings to go to but I am aware of my awkwardness and not sure whether to go incase I just make everyone and myself feel awkward again.

I am 25 and scared that I will always be alone as I can't get this whole social 'normalness' correct.

Can anyone relate to this or offer any advice please

Regards

You seem to be describing me. I sometimes behave like I am running on a motor, and I always feel like people are thinking that I am either crazy, or dumb, or both.

ah sorry you feel like that too, it is really frustrating.

I feel like I need to find a job where I speak to no-one and live in a cave with my guitar.

On a positive note I am thinking of joining the athletics club so I can sprint, handle my energy and have no problems with having social issues

I am in a similar situation im awkward,anxious and not great at picking up social signals ,as everyone in building is new my approach is to initiate as many conversations as possible and just keep trying while people are especially anemable to making new friends.Ive had limited sucess so far but ill keep trying - the worst thing that can happen is i will be better at socialising than before.

Id suggest, if you can,to turn up to these gathering once everyone is slightly tipsy and you should find people are especially social because a) they are out to make new friends and worried about the impression they are making on you and b) they are tipsy.

Its hard to get past the smalltalk "what uni are you going to?, what subject are you studying?? "etc .i try to pick something out of the conversation that allows me to branch off and get into a pointless dicussion that allows me and person speaking to express our personalities a bit more.

If it isnt rude to enquire, what general area are you from? Im from london uk.